The ruling on prioritizing the mother in dutifulness
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Question:
May Allah reward you with good. A message was received for the program from listener Abbas Safi al-Nur. He says: I intended to perform Hajj for my father. Should I perform Hajj for my father or for my mother? May Allah reward you with good, knowing that the father has passed away?
Answer:
If both have passed away and neither has performed Hajj, the mother is better; it is better to start with her because her right is greater. However, if she is alive or if she has already performed Hajj, then you perform Hajj on behalf of the father, and that is part of being dutiful to him. As for the mother, if she has not performed Hajj, seek help from Allah; if you are able to take her for Hajj and she is capable of performing it, do so. But if she is unable due to her advanced age, then you perform Hajj on her behalf, and praise be to Allah, and you will be rewarded. The summary is that if both the father and mother are in the same situation, the mother is better and takes precedence in dutifulness, based on the saying of the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) when he was asked. The questioner said to him: O Messenger of Allah, who among people has the strongest right to good companionship?Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 5, and in another hadith, the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) said when the questioner asked who is most deserving of dutifulness? Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 5, then the next closest, and so on. Therefore, the mother takes precedence in dutifulness, whether alive or dead. If both have not performed Hajj and have passed away, perform Hajj for the mother first, then for the father; this is the best. If you start with the father, there is no blame on you, but you have left the best option. The best is to start with her, then the father. Likewise, if both are alive and unable to perform Hajj, and you are able to take them, take them both. If you cannot, start with the mother, for her right is greater. Yes. May Allah grant you success.
May Allah reward you with good. A message was received for the program from listener Abbas Safi al-Nur. He says: I intended to perform Hajj for my father. Should I perform Hajj for my father or for my mother? May Allah reward you with good, knowing that the father has passed away?
Answer:
If both have passed away and neither has performed Hajj, the mother is better; it is better to start with her because her right is greater. However, if she is alive or if she has already performed Hajj, then you perform Hajj on behalf of the father, and that is part of being dutiful to him. As for the mother, if she has not performed Hajj, seek help from Allah; if you are able to take her for Hajj and she is capable of performing it, do so. But if she is unable due to her advanced age, then you perform Hajj on her behalf, and praise be to Allah, and you will be rewarded. The summary is that if both the father and mother are in the same situation, the mother is better and takes precedence in dutifulness, based on the saying of the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) when he was asked. The questioner said to him: O Messenger of Allah, who among people has the strongest right to good companionship?
'Your mother,' he replied. He was asked, 'Then whom?' 'Your mother,' he replied. He was asked, 'Then whom?' 'Your mother,' he replied. He was asked, 'Then whom?' He replied, 'Your father.'
قال أمك، قال ثم من؟ قال أمك، قال ثم من؟ قال أمك، قال ثم من؟ قال أبوك'Your mother,' he replied. He was asked, 'Then whom?' 'Your mother,' he replied. He was asked, 'Then whom?' 'Your mother,' he replied. He was asked, 'Then whom?' He replied, 'Your father.'
قال أمك، قال ثم من؟ قال أمك، قال ثم من؟ قال أمك، قال ثم من؟ قال أباك
Source
قناة «فضيلة الشيخ ابن باز Alsheikh Binbaz»، 9668 - حكم تقديم الأم في البر - نور على الدرب — youtube.com
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