Is it permissible, if I propose to a girl, to buy her gold jewelry to please her father, and then sell it immediately after the marriage because I am convinced of its prohibition?
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The questioner : Shaykh, regarding your prohibition of gold jewelry, meaning, praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds, we have taken the evidence. But if I propose to a woman, and her father or brother insists on this gold jewelry, is it permissible for me to provide it for them, and when I marry her, I sell this gold, because I am convinced by the evidence you mentioned?
The Shaykh : It is not important that you alone are the one who is convinced.
The questioner : Yes!
The Shaykh : It is obligatory that your life partner be convinced with you, otherwise separation will occur immediately upon meeting!
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : And divorce will follow it. Therefore, it is not enough for you to be the one who is convinced. Within the limits of the question you are asking, it is possible if the fiancée or the one being proposed to, you have known her well, you know that her creed is upon the Book and the Sunnah, first in a general sense, and second: she is convinced of the prohibition of gold jewelry with a heartfelt conviction, without, meaning, coercion from you hoping for the marriage, no, a personal conviction. In this case only, you can proceed, and then you and your wife agree to stay away from the forbidden gold. Clear?
The questioner : Clear, but this will be from the beginning, of course, Shaykh!
The Shaykh: Of course.
The questioner : The problem is with her parents themselves, her brother or her father or so on. As is the custom, they want gold and things like this, these things known in Egypt, meaning.
The Shaykh : Repeating your words, do you want me to repeat the answer?
The questioner : No, no, no.
The Shaykh : So, allow me now!
The questioner : The answer is clear.
The Shaykh: Peace be upon you.
The questioner : And peace be upon you.
The Shaykh : It is not important that you alone are the one who is convinced.
The questioner : Yes!
The Shaykh : It is obligatory that your life partner be convinced with you, otherwise separation will occur immediately upon meeting!
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : And divorce will follow it. Therefore, it is not enough for you to be the one who is convinced. Within the limits of the question you are asking, it is possible if the fiancée or the one being proposed to, you have known her well, you know that her creed is upon the Book and the Sunnah, first in a general sense, and second: she is convinced of the prohibition of gold jewelry with a heartfelt conviction, without, meaning, coercion from you hoping for the marriage, no, a personal conviction. In this case only, you can proceed, and then you and your wife agree to stay away from the forbidden gold. Clear?
The questioner : Clear, but this will be from the beginning, of course, Shaykh!
The Shaykh: Of course.
The questioner : The problem is with her parents themselves, her brother or her father or so on. As is the custom, they want gold and things like this, these things known in Egypt, meaning.
The Shaykh : Repeating your words, do you want me to repeat the answer?
The questioner : No, no, no.
The Shaykh : So, allow me now!
The questioner : The answer is clear.
The Shaykh: Peace be upon you.
The questioner : And peace be upon you.
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