What is the criterion for the Shari'ah-prescribed duration for which a husband may be absent from his wife, and does the ruling differ from one woman to another and from one situation to another?
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The Shaykh : The answer to the question varies depending on the nature of the woman and the nature of the man. If the man is the one who is absent from the woman, and the woman has a strong desire, do you know what strong desire is?
The questioner : I know, Shaykh.
The Shaykh: What is it?
The questioner : It is the intense passion.
The Shaykh : The overwhelming passion, yes. So if a woman has a strong desire, she is not like the other woman who is cold, yes. This one needs a short period, meaning the first one, whereas the other may not care or think about her husband because she is cold. Between these two are degrees and levels that no one knows except Allah. Then, the husband who has been with her is the one who estimates the duration for which he should be absent. Did you understand the answer?
The questioner: I understood, Shaykh.
The Shaykh : So, in short: It is not possible to specify a number of days because people’s natures differ regarding what is called today: sex. Is that clear?
The questioner : Is that clear?
The Shaykh : May Allah reward you.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good, Shaykh!
The Shaykh : Where is 'Abd al-Rahman?
The student : 'Abd al-Rahman has not come down yet.
The Shaykh : Come down and bring him to me, my brother. He has no work here right now.
The questioner : Is it permissible, Shaykh, for a man to sprinkle water on her?
The Shaykh : May Allah forgive you. Have I not already answered you?
The questioner: Our Shaykh.
The Shaykh : I told you: It is permissible. And you asked if it obligates you to perform the full ritual bath? I said: You wash every part of your body that is exposed. Why do you repeat the question?!
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh : And beware of that.
The questioner : I know, Shaykh.
The Shaykh: What is it?
The questioner : It is the intense passion.
The Shaykh : The overwhelming passion, yes. So if a woman has a strong desire, she is not like the other woman who is cold, yes. This one needs a short period, meaning the first one, whereas the other may not care or think about her husband because she is cold. Between these two are degrees and levels that no one knows except Allah. Then, the husband who has been with her is the one who estimates the duration for which he should be absent. Did you understand the answer?
The questioner: I understood, Shaykh.
The Shaykh : So, in short: It is not possible to specify a number of days because people’s natures differ regarding what is called today: sex. Is that clear?
The questioner : Is that clear?
The Shaykh : May Allah reward you.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good, Shaykh!
The Shaykh : Where is 'Abd al-Rahman?
The student : 'Abd al-Rahman has not come down yet.
The Shaykh : Come down and bring him to me, my brother. He has no work here right now.
The questioner : Is it permissible, Shaykh, for a man to sprinkle water on her?
The Shaykh : May Allah forgive you. Have I not already answered you?
The questioner: Our Shaykh.
The Shaykh : I told you: It is permissible. And you asked if it obligates you to perform the full ritual bath? I said: You wash every part of your body that is exposed. Why do you repeat the question?!
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh : And beware of that.
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