The Shaykh's advice to one who migrated in the cause of Allah without his mother's approval.

The Shaykh : I know this, but I am asking about the answer. You told me something I was not ignorant of, and you withheld from me something I want to know.

The questioner : It is not complete satisfaction, I mean.

The Shaykh : Yes, that is the answer. How can there be complete satisfaction and incomplete satisfaction? It is clear, you see. Incomplete satisfaction is still satisfaction.

The questioner : No, it is not satisfaction.

The Shaykh : And less than complete satisfaction is still satisfaction.

The questioner : Less than complete satisfaction.

The Shaykh : As the poet said.

The questioner : I mean, less than complete satisfaction is not satisfaction.

The Shaykh : This is Salim al-Hilali.

The questioner : How are you?

The Shaykh : Welcome, how are you?

The questioner : I have a question.

The Shaykh : Have we finished with the question? Yes, go ahead.

The questioner : It is not complete satisfaction, I mean, it is not satisfaction without satisfaction.

The Shaykh : It is not satisfaction. Well, why did you not take her satisfaction?

The questioner : By Allah, I spoke to her, O Shaykh, but she refused, I mean.

The Shaykh : Did she say she forgave you? What did she refuse?

The questioner : She refused my travel, I mean.

The Shaykh : Do you have brothers?

The questioner : Yes, I do.

The Shaykh : Older?

The questioner : Older, yes.

The Shaykh : Do they take care of her?

The questioner : Yes, they are all working.

The Shaykh : And are they committed? In any case, you know that obedience to parents is an individual obligation, and that a Muslim is not permitted to be lax in any obligation or neglect its implementation, unless it falls under his inability and lack of capacity to perform it. So if you felt on the day you migrated that you could not obey your mother, you are not held accountable. And I cannot say that you were able to or unable to; you are the one who judges yourself, as indicated by the saying of our Lord, Blessed and Exalted is He: Of course, my words here are completely aside from the topic of the obligatory good opinion of a Muslim brother and the topic of the impermissible bad opinion of a Muslim brother. That is a separate matter. But we are talking about the legal ruling. So after you came here, did you contact her, for example, by some means of communication, such as correspondence, which they used to say in the past was half of meeting? Did you contact her?

The questioner : I did not contact her.
Al-Halabi : Nor by phone.

The questioner : There is no phone in the house.

The Shaykh : How?

The questioner : There is no phone in the house. I contacted the same village where they live, but the phone was not answered, I mean, I tried.

The Shaykh : A letter? A letter? They used to say in the past that a letter is half of meeting.

The questioner : No, by Allah, I did not do that.

The Shaykh : But today, the phone is three-quarters of meeting. So I did not burden you or ask you if you called her, because I know that calling may not be feasible for someone like you. But as for correspondence, the matter is easy. So you must make up for this correspondence, which is half of meeting. This is the least that is required of one who left his country migrating in the cause of Allah, seeking the Face of Allah, and angering his mother. But there is no obedience to a created being in disobedience to the Creator; this is well known. So if you followed this hadith in your departure, you have, if Allah wills, departed in the cause of Allah and are not held accountable for not pleasing your mother. But you can be kind to her and contact her by any means that softens her heart toward you. The first and easiest of these is correspondence. Perhaps you will do so, if Allah wills.

The questioner : If Allah wills, with Allah's permission.

The Shaykh : Well, if we have finished with the question, then bring up the question you have.