A man files a lawsuit against his mother in a dispute between them; what is your advice?
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The Shaykh : ... .
The questioner : If Allah wills, very well.
The Shaykh : May Allah make you good.
The questioner : May Allah grant you well-being.
The Shaykh : May Allah keep you well.
The questioner : Did he tell you... Abd al-Hayy, my Shaykh, today?
The Shaykh : No.
The questioner : Yes, so basically, initially, we reached an agreement with him, just as you spoke with us this morning. If you permit, we will pray the midday prayer here on Friday and then come to you.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : He requested it this morning. We told him, "The Shaykh, in his opinion, it is like this."
The Shaykh : Yes
The questioner : A second opportunity, if Allah wills, we will make it up to you. But for now, initially, it is like this. So, I was very pleased, especially since he asked you a long question and answer about dutifulness to parents, because of the request of the brothers who asked this...
The Shaykh : Yes, that is right.
The questioner : From Kuwait, and he received a very detailed answer.
The Shaykh : Yes, that is right.
The questioner : But he will tell me, "This Rafi'i..."
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : Because he sent him the answer via fax.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : Otherwise, it would be good. He wants to file the lawsuit so that my mother is not wronged, to remove the injustice from my mother. I told him, "By Allah, the Shaykh, I do not think he will agree to this, because he must fulfill his duty, and his mother is responsible for her duty."
The Shaykh : How can he file a lawsuit against his mother?
The questioner : Because when he was involved, on the basis of filing a lawsuit against his mother, he refused...
The Shaykh : Well, and now?
The questioner : Now he says that his mother, when he wants to leave her as she is, his mother’s lawsuit against his brothers, meaning against my brother, meaning my brother... among the brothers to the brothers.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : Now she would have wronged herself.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : He wants to file the lawsuit so that she does not wrong his remaining brothers, but he means...
The Shaykh : He wants to file the lawsuit against her.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : May Allah guide him. What is the difference? He filed the lawsuit against her for his sake...
The questioner : Or for the sake of another.
The Shaykh : Or for the sake of another.
The questioner : Yes... he said, "She will not be a wrongdoer; he wants to keep her from wronging."
The Shaykh : He should advise her and that is all.
The questioner : Yes, I told him, "The Shaykh will not agree to this, because the Shaykh, as far as I know from him, his opinion is that this matter is specific to her. She wrongs, she is responsible for herself, but her son does not treat the mother in the same way."
The Shaykh : Yes, that is right.
The questioner : I do not think the Shaykh will agree with him on this.
The Shaykh : No, the answer was very clear.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good. By Allah, he read it to me.
The Shaykh : Yes, that is right.
The questioner : He wrote it on a piece of paper and was listening to you on the phone.
The Shaykh : Yes, that is right.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh : And you likewise
The questioner : So we, if Allah wills, told her to call us on Thursday at the end of the day or on Friday morning.
The Shaykh : Very well.
The questioner : ... with the Shaykh, meaning.
The Shaykh : Good.
The questioner : He told me, "Okay," and he told me, "I am in Irbid, and there is a phone at the place where we want to meet."
The Shaykh : Very well.
The questioner : We told him, "Okay, if Allah wills."
The Shaykh : May Allah will it
The questioner : If Allah wills, very well.
The Shaykh : May Allah make you good.
The questioner : May Allah grant you well-being.
The Shaykh : May Allah keep you well.
The questioner : Did he tell you... Abd al-Hayy, my Shaykh, today?
The Shaykh : No.
The questioner : Yes, so basically, initially, we reached an agreement with him, just as you spoke with us this morning. If you permit, we will pray the midday prayer here on Friday and then come to you.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : He requested it this morning. We told him, "The Shaykh, in his opinion, it is like this."
The Shaykh : Yes
The questioner : A second opportunity, if Allah wills, we will make it up to you. But for now, initially, it is like this. So, I was very pleased, especially since he asked you a long question and answer about dutifulness to parents, because of the request of the brothers who asked this...
The Shaykh : Yes, that is right.
The questioner : From Kuwait, and he received a very detailed answer.
The Shaykh : Yes, that is right.
The questioner : But he will tell me, "This Rafi'i..."
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : Because he sent him the answer via fax.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : Otherwise, it would be good. He wants to file the lawsuit so that my mother is not wronged, to remove the injustice from my mother. I told him, "By Allah, the Shaykh, I do not think he will agree to this, because he must fulfill his duty, and his mother is responsible for her duty."
The Shaykh : How can he file a lawsuit against his mother?
The questioner : Because when he was involved, on the basis of filing a lawsuit against his mother, he refused...
The Shaykh : Well, and now?
The questioner : Now he says that his mother, when he wants to leave her as she is, his mother’s lawsuit against his brothers, meaning against my brother, meaning my brother... among the brothers to the brothers.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : Now she would have wronged herself.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : He wants to file the lawsuit so that she does not wrong his remaining brothers, but he means...
The Shaykh : He wants to file the lawsuit against her.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : May Allah guide him. What is the difference? He filed the lawsuit against her for his sake...
The questioner : Or for the sake of another.
The Shaykh : Or for the sake of another.
The questioner : Yes... he said, "She will not be a wrongdoer; he wants to keep her from wronging."
The Shaykh : He should advise her and that is all.
The questioner : Yes, I told him, "The Shaykh will not agree to this, because the Shaykh, as far as I know from him, his opinion is that this matter is specific to her. She wrongs, she is responsible for herself, but her son does not treat the mother in the same way."
The Shaykh : Yes, that is right.
The questioner : I do not think the Shaykh will agree with him on this.
The Shaykh : No, the answer was very clear.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good. By Allah, he read it to me.
The Shaykh : Yes, that is right.
The questioner : He wrote it on a piece of paper and was listening to you on the phone.
The Shaykh : Yes, that is right.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh : And you likewise
The questioner : So we, if Allah wills, told her to call us on Thursday at the end of the day or on Friday morning.
The Shaykh : Very well.
The questioner : ... with the Shaykh, meaning.
The Shaykh : Good.
The questioner : He told me, "Okay," and he told me, "I am in Irbid, and there is a phone at the place where we want to meet."
The Shaykh : Very well.
The questioner : We told him, "Okay, if Allah wills."
The Shaykh : May Allah will it