Explaining the aspects of backbiting that are exempted from prohibition.

The Shaykh : ... Oh so-and-so, what is your opinion of so-and-so? Good, if Allah wills? By Allah... from our side, you also have to point out his defects; so that when there is an agreement on the document, they are aware of the matter, not deceived, by Allah, why? Forbidden backbiting, this description and definition does not include backbiting; so it is not forbidden.
"Censure is not backbiting in six cases: *** the complainant and the one who identifies" He is the one who identifies.
And the one who warns, the third characteristic, I see so-and-so is associating with so-and-so; yes, I tell him: be careful, do not go with so-and-so!! Good, if Allah wills? This is his character... why? Because the intention here is warning, we warn the righteous young man from mixing with the corrupt young man, the young man of good character we forbid him from mixing with the young man of bad character; why? Because the nature of people is that it spreads like beautiful fruits, if placed next to rotten fruit, it spoils it and the infection transfers to it, the Sunnah of Allah in His creation .
And for that reason, the Messenger (peace be upon him) warned against the company of the bad, and he said: ; meaning he gives it to you for free, . So the companion of the righteous man is a gainer in any case, his example is like the one who sits with the perfumer; either he gives it to him for free, or he buys from him for a price, or at least he is content with smelling the pleasant scent, while the example of the bad companion, he (peace be upon him) said in the completion of the hadith: . This and that is the example of the good companion and the example of the bad companion, so if we see a bad person mixing with a righteous person, we warn him and tell him: so-and-so whom you go with does such and such, says such and such, believes such and such, and so on... this is not disliked backbiting, but this backbiting is obligatory, not just permissible, this is a warning; beware of going with so-and-so because... such and such, this is obligatory. So we have with us until now three characteristics: the complainant, the one who identifies, and the one who warns.
The fourth characteristic: and one who openly commits open sinfulness. And one who openly commits open sinfulness is one who drinks intoxicants openly, he does not fear Allah, nor does he feel shy of the servants of Allah, this is the open sinner who openly displays his sinfulness, this is backbitten; it is said: so-and-so is drinking intoxicants and does not feel shy of people at all; so he falls under the general text ? In terms of meaning, he falls under it, but in terms of the specific evidences, this type is not from that general text, this is the sinner who declares his sinfulness and lewdness, so-and-so opened, for example, a "bar", opened a place for intoxicants, this is not forbidden backbiting at all; this is exempted from forbidden backbiting.
The third question, excuse me: the fifth type, after he said: and one who openly commits open sinfulness, he said: and one who seeks a ruling. This is the fifth section of backbiting exempted from prohibition, and one who seeks a ruling. The one who seeks a ruling has many examples, cases, and types; the man comes to the scholar and says: my wife does such and such and such... or the woman comes to the scholar and says: my husband does such and such, and each of them describes the other with a description that is backbiting; is this permissible or forbidden? This is permissible; because it is exempted from forbidden backbiting, and the evidence for that is the story of Hind when she came to the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) and said: "O Messenger of Allah, my husband is a stingy man." ... she describes his stinginess, a stingy man means: miserly; meaning he is not fulfilling his obligations toward his wife and children. "Is it permissible for me to take from his wealth what suffices me and my children?" He (peace be upon him) said: .
This is the hadith, and the discussion of it is only to the extent that suits what we are currently dealing with; which is the woman's statement: my husband is stingy, how did the Messenger remain silent about this backbiting? Because it is backbiting that came on the occasion of seeking a ruling, so my husband is stingy, not fulfilling the obligation of spending on me, and is it permissible for me to take from his wealth without... his knowledge? He told her: it is permissible, but with one condition, or rather two conditions; the first condition is implied, as if he is telling her: if you are truthful that he is stingy, and that he does not fulfill his right of maintenance; then it is permissible for you to take from his wealth what suffices you and your child, but with the condition of what is known; meaning what is customarily known that this amount you are taking is sufficient; as if the Messenger (peace be upon him) is telling her: do not exploit the Shari'ah's permission for you to take from the wealth of your stingy husband who is short in his right of maintenance for you and your children; do not exploit the Shari'ah's permission for you to take what suffices you and your child, you take, and more... no, take from his wealth what suffices you and your child in the known manner.
This example is from what...
... and give it in charity, meaning if you have, meaning, abundance of wealth, then provision comes to you from other...