The benefits of enjoining good and forbidding evil with gentleness and softness.

The Shaykh : And consider yourself: if a person saw you doing something forbidden and said to you gently, "This is forbidden and not permissible, and you are earning sin by it. If you leave it for the sake of Allah, Allah will replace it with something better," or words like that which are soft. Or if he said to you when he saw you, "You are a sinner, you are an open sinner, how can you do such a thing, O innovator," and he mentions whatever bad descriptions he mentions. Which of the two is more acceptable to you? Yes.
The student: The first.

The Shaykh : The first one. Perhaps some of you remember the Jew who passed by the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) while Aisha was with him, and he said: . Aisha said, "May death and a curse be upon you." What is death? It is death. She (may Allah be pleased with her) went beyond what the Jew had invoked.
The Jew invoked death upon the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), and she invoked death and a curse upon him.
So the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: . And this is something observed and tested. Therefore, I urge our brothers who enjoin good and forbid evil; I urge them to be gentle without missing the opportunity to address the one who is in error. I am not saying, when I call for gentleness, that you should leave people and their evil alone. No. But I say that you should forbid people from evil in a gentle manner.