Benefits of the Hadith: (… The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said:

The Shaykh : This is like the first one; it contains a warning against disclosing secrets. However, if someone comes to seek a ruling, meaning he had intercourse with his wife in a specific manner and then comes to ask whether this is permissible or not, he is not included in that prohibition, because his intention is not to disclose the secret, but rather to clarify the ruling: is this permissible or not? Yes. But in such a case, is it better for the questioner to say, “I did such and such with my wife, is it permissible?” or to say, “What do you say about a man who does such and such with his wife?”
The student: The second.

The Shaykh : The second option is better, because the second one allows for the possibility that he is asking about another person, whereas the first one is explicit that he is asking about his own action. Avoiding this is undoubtedly better. Yes, Samir.