Explanation of the words of Imam al-Nawawi (may Allah have mercy on him) regarding what he quoted: "
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The Shaykh : Likewise, honoring their friends, like the previous hadith of Abdullah ibn Umar, meaning if they had a friend, honor him, for this is part of being dutiful to them.
And the fifth: maintaining the ties of kinship that you have no connection to except through them, meaning maintaining the relatives of the parents, for that is part of being dutiful to them, so these things constitute dutifulness after the death of the parents.
I think charity is not mentioned, is there no charity in it?!
And fulfilling their covenants, the fifth: fulfilling their covenants, as for charity, it came in another hadith:, but the Messenger did not guide to charity for the parents, but only permitted it for those who asked him.
: meaning fulfilling their wills.
So these are five things: praying for them, seeking forgiveness for them, honoring their friends, fulfilling their covenants, and maintaining the ties of kinship that you have no connection to except through them, these are part of being dutiful to the parents.
As for charity for them, or reciting the Qur'an for them, or praying, praying two rak'ahs and saying for my father, this is what the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) did not order, nor did he guide to it, but he said:Sahih Muslim 1631, he did not say: a righteous one gives charity for him, prays for him, fasts for him, performs Hajj for him, performs 'Umrah for him, he never said this, he said: , so supplication is better than righteous deeds for the parents.
But if a person does it and intends this deed for his parents, then there is no harm in it, because the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) did not prevent Sa'd ibn Ubadah, nor the man who said: O Messenger of Allah, my mother was taken away, and if she had spoken, she would have given charity.
So these are five things of being dutiful to the parents after their death.
Then the author mentioned the hadith of Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her), that she said:Sahih al-Bukhari 3818: Jealousy: is an emotion that occurs in a person, and its owner must be exclusive to it over others, for this it is called jealousy, because he dislikes that another be beloved to his beloved, and co-wives are the most jealous of the children of Adam.
Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) was the beloved of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him and his family), and he did not love anyone like her in his life after Khadijah, and he loved Khadijah (peace and blessings be upon him), because she was the mother of his children except Ibrahim, who was from Maryam, and because she supported him and helped him at the beginning of the mission, and she was generous with her wealth, so he did not forget her.
He was in Madinah, when he slaughtered a sheep, he took some of its meat and sent it to her friends, to the friends of Khadijah, and Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) could not bear that, she said:.
He said:, meaning she used to do such and such, and do such and such, and he mentioned some of her qualities (may Allah be pleased with her).
Sahih al-Bukhari 3818: meaning children, all his children, four daughters and three sons, all of them were from her except one son, who was Ibrahim (may Allah be pleased with him), for he was from Maryam the Copt, whom the King of the Copts gifted to him, so his children were all from Khadijah, so he said: Sahih al-Bukhari 3818.
The point of this hadith: that honoring the friend of a person after his death is considered honoring him, and being dutiful to him, whether it is from the parents, or from the spouses, or from the friends, or from the relatives, for honoring the friend, the friend of the deceased, is considered honoring him, and Allah is the one who grants success.
And the fifth: maintaining the ties of kinship that you have no connection to except through them, meaning maintaining the relatives of the parents, for that is part of being dutiful to them, so these things constitute dutifulness after the death of the parents.
I think charity is not mentioned, is there no charity in it?!
And fulfilling their covenants, the fifth: fulfilling their covenants, as for charity, it came in another hadith:
When Sa'd ibn Ubadah (may Allah be pleased with him) asked the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) to give charity for his mother, he permitted him
حين سأل سعد بن عبادة رضي الله عنه النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم أن يتصدق على أمه فأذن لهFulfilling their covenants
إنفاذ عهدهماSo these are five things: praying for them, seeking forgiveness for them, honoring their friends, fulfilling their covenants, and maintaining the ties of kinship that you have no connection to except through them, these are part of being dutiful to the parents.
As for charity for them, or reciting the Qur'an for them, or praying, praying two rak'ahs and saying for my father, this is what the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) did not order, nor did he guide to it, but he said:
When a man dies, his acts come to an end, but three, recurring charity, or knowledge (by which people) benefit, or a pious child, who prays for him (for the deceased).
إذا مات الإنسان انقطع عمله إلا من ثلاث: إلا من صدقة جارية، أو علم ينتفع به، أو ولد صالح يدعو لهwho supplicates for him
يدعو لهBut if a person does it and intends this deed for his parents, then there is no harm in it, because the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) did not prevent Sa'd ibn Ubadah, nor the man who said: O Messenger of Allah, my mother was taken away, and if she had spoken, she would have given charity.
So these are five things of being dutiful to the parents after their death.
Then the author mentioned the hadith of Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her), that she said:
I did not feel jealous of any of the wives of the Prophet (ﷺ) as much as I did of Khadija
ما غِرت على أحد من نساء النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم ما غِرت على خديجةAisha (may Allah be pleased with her) was the beloved of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him and his family), and he did not love anyone like her in his life after Khadijah, and he loved Khadijah (peace and blessings be upon him), because she was the mother of his children except Ibrahim, who was from Maryam, and because she supported him and helped him at the beginning of the mission, and she was generous with her wealth, so he did not forget her.
He was in Madinah, when he slaughtered a sheep, he took some of its meat and sent it to her friends, to the friends of Khadijah, and Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) could not bear that, she said:
O Messenger of Allah, as if there was no one in the world except Khadijah
يا رسول الله، كأن لم يكن في الدنيا إلا خديجةHe said:
She was, and she was
إنها كانت وكانتand from her I had children
وكان لي منها ولدKhadija was such-and-such, and from her I had children.
إنها كانت وكانت وكان لي منها ولدThe point of this hadith: that honoring the friend of a person after his death is considered honoring him, and being dutiful to him, whether it is from the parents, or from the spouses, or from the friends, or from the relatives, for honoring the friend, the friend of the deceased, is considered honoring him, and Allah is the one who grants success.