Among the Innovations of Condolence

He speaks about the innovations his people practice in condolence, saying for example: Is it permissible, after the death of a deceased person and his burial, to distribute dates to those who are present, and to recite the Qur'an at the grave? Is that part of the Sunnah? Also, after his death, they recite the Qur'an for three days in the mosque, in the morning and in the evening. On the third day, they distribute dates to those present in the mosque along with drinking coffee. The family of the deceased says: This is charity! Please give us a ruling on this, may Allah reward you. Then, after thirty days, they also recite the Qur'an along with distributing dates and coffee.
Answer: All of this is a religious innovation with no basis, whether it is dates or anything else. It is making it a custom to distribute dates, dirhams, bread, or anything else at the grave, or during three days, or after twenty days, or after a month, or after a year. All of this is among the innovations. The Sunnah after burial is to stand over the grave and make du'a for the deceased. When they finish burying him, they should pray for him for forgiveness and steadfastness, and then leave. People should offer condolences to the family, whether on the way, at the cemetery, in the mosque, or at home; there is no specific place for condolences. If the one offering condolences comes and they serve him coffee or tea, there is no harm in that. However, intentionally distributing dates, bread, or meat on specific days, such as the day of death, three days later, on the first of the month, or on the first of the year, all of this is an innovation with no basis. Likewise, reciting the Qur'an at the grave, or for three days, or a month, or less or more, for the deceased, all of this is an innovation with no basis. People should restrict themselves to what Allah has prescribed. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Neither he (peace and blessings be upon him) nor his Companions used to recite the Qur'an at the grave of a deceased person, or gather in the house to recite for three days, four days, ten days, or less or more. Nor did they distribute dates, bread, sweets, or anything else. When a person dies, his family is offered condolences, and they are prayed for with forgiveness. It is said: May Allah make your consolation good, may Allah console you for your loss. This can be done at home, on the way, in the mosque, in a place of buying and selling, or anywhere. If they visit them at home and serve them coffee or tea, or make them feel comfortable, all of this is good. However, making it a custom to distribute dates or meat, or to recite the Qur'an, for three days, ten days, on the first of the month, or on the first of the year, has no basis. Rather, it is among the innovations. Yes.