What do you advise me to do, given that I am a student at the University of Jordan and a young man has proposed to me on the condition that I stop my studies?
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The Shaykh: Yes.
The questioner : Peace be upon you.
The Shaykh: And upon you peace.
The questioner: Shaykh Al-Albani.
The Shaykh: Yes.
The questioner: Please, yesterday I told your wife something.
The Shaykh : Yesterday?
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : No, I don't think so.
The questioner: Okay, please, call me.
The Shaykh: Yes.
The questioner: I am a university student now.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner: A university student at the University of Jordan, yes.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner: A man proposed to me, and I am, of course, in the Sharia faculty, wearing the khimar.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner: And a man proposed to me, saying it is not permissible for you to continue your education.
The Shaykh : Not permissible to do what?
The questioner: Continue your education.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner: And I swear to you, O Shaykh, seriously, I am telling you that we girls are behind and the boys are in front, and everyone enters, everyone has their own floor, everyone has their own cafeteria, everyone has their own prayer hall. When we hear, like, in the market, for example, or walking... no, this one is not talking to that one, and this one is not talking to that one. Our faculty is separate, meaning completely separate, the Sharia faculty, and I...
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner: It is a disability, meaning my legs are paralyzed, I am disabled.
The Shaykh : May Allah grant you health.
The questioner: And may Allah protect you, it is my first year, and he tells me that learning is not permissible. And I mean, I worked hard to reach this stage and to educate myself in the religion of Allah, if Allah wills. What is your opinion, O Shaykh?
The Shaykh : Okay, is he a suitor or has he contracted the marriage?
The questioner: He proposed to me; he was married before.
The Shaykh : Never mind, why should I care about these details? You just answer my question.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : Did he just propose to you or did he contract the marriage?
The questioner: He has only proposed to me, just a proposal.
The Shaykh: All right.
The questioner : Okay.
The Shaykh : This proposal, you should adhere to his saying (peace and blessings be upon him):.
The questioner : Okay.
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The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : If the man is religious and committed.
The questioner : Okay.
The Shaykh : And does not want you to continue your studies, even if you were in a university exclusively for women, even if you were in a university exclusively for women.
The questioner : Okay.
The Shaykh : If he does not want it, and if you like him, you will agree to his proposal.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : If you do not like him, you will not agree.
The questioner: My uncle, the Shaykh.
The Shaykh: Yes.
The questioner: He tells me, if it is permissible for you to go out to the university and study, I am fine with it, but from the religious aspect, is it permissible for me... O Shaykh?
The Shaykh : Why don't you let him talk to me and call me so I can understand from him.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : What is your opinion?
The questioner: Okay, based on the matters I told you, is it permissible for me to go out? I swear to Allah, I am a martyr in this, meaning if they want us not to go out, I am not going out of the prayer hall. I am ready, meaning, if they just let me learn, is it permissible for me to do this?
The Shaykh : You did not understand, you did not understand me.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : I told you, if you were in a university exclusively for women and girls, and the husband does not want that, the wife must obey him.
The questioner: He tells me to study.
The Shaykh: There is no power nor strength except with Allah.
The questioner: My uncle, the Shaykh, may Allah give you patience with me, but just a little.
The Shaykh : But what do I need to be patient for, O my Lord, while I am waiting for people to ask me questions like yours? You are prolonging the explanation and not understanding me. Your seeking of knowledge is good, but your seeking of knowledge is not an individual obligation.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : If the husband asks his wife for something that is not obligatory for her.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : The wife must obey him, and I will let you hear a hadith in which he (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Meaning, if the wife wants to fast in Ramadan and the man says to her, no, I want you.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : She does not obey him, but if she wants to fast six days of Shawwal and he says to her, no, do not fast; she must obey him. Do you understand the difference between the two examples?
The questioner: I understand, yes.
The Shaykh : If you understand, your university studies are not obligatory.
The questioner: Okay, is it forbidden for me? Do I sin if he agrees? If he agrees, do I sin from the legal aspect? Do I sin?
The Shaykh : If he agrees? You are saying he is not agreeing, may Allah guide you.
The questioner: He told me, if I cannot bear it regarding your religion, I agree.
The Shaykh : Let him, let him call me so I can give him the answer.
The questioner: Okay, O Shaykh.
The questioner : Peace be upon you.
The Shaykh: And upon you peace.
The questioner: Shaykh Al-Albani.
The Shaykh: Yes.
The questioner: Please, yesterday I told your wife something.
The Shaykh : Yesterday?
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : No, I don't think so.
The questioner: Okay, please, call me.
The Shaykh: Yes.
The questioner: I am a university student now.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner: A university student at the University of Jordan, yes.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner: A man proposed to me, and I am, of course, in the Sharia faculty, wearing the khimar.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner: And a man proposed to me, saying it is not permissible for you to continue your education.
The Shaykh : Not permissible to do what?
The questioner: Continue your education.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner: And I swear to you, O Shaykh, seriously, I am telling you that we girls are behind and the boys are in front, and everyone enters, everyone has their own floor, everyone has their own cafeteria, everyone has their own prayer hall. When we hear, like, in the market, for example, or walking... no, this one is not talking to that one, and this one is not talking to that one. Our faculty is separate, meaning completely separate, the Sharia faculty, and I...
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner: It is a disability, meaning my legs are paralyzed, I am disabled.
The Shaykh : May Allah grant you health.
The questioner: And may Allah protect you, it is my first year, and he tells me that learning is not permissible. And I mean, I worked hard to reach this stage and to educate myself in the religion of Allah, if Allah wills. What is your opinion, O Shaykh?
The Shaykh : Okay, is he a suitor or has he contracted the marriage?
The questioner: He proposed to me; he was married before.
The Shaykh : Never mind, why should I care about these details? You just answer my question.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : Did he just propose to you or did he contract the marriage?
The questioner: He has only proposed to me, just a proposal.
The Shaykh: All right.
The questioner : Okay.
The Shaykh : This proposal, you should adhere to his saying (peace and blessings be upon him):
If there comes to you a man whose religion and character you are pleased with, marry him to her.
إذا جاءكم مَن ترضوه دينه وخلقه فزوِّجوهThe questioner : Okay.
The Shaykh
for if you do not do that there will be Fitnah in the land and widespread corruption.
إلا تفعلوا تكُنْ فتنة في الأرض وفساد كبيرGreat.
عريضThe questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : If the man is religious and committed.
The questioner : Okay.
The Shaykh : And does not want you to continue your studies, even if you were in a university exclusively for women, even if you were in a university exclusively for women.
The questioner : Okay.
The Shaykh : If he does not want it, and if you like him, you will agree to his proposal.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : If you do not like him, you will not agree.
The questioner: My uncle, the Shaykh.
The Shaykh: Yes.
The questioner: He tells me, if it is permissible for you to go out to the university and study, I am fine with it, but from the religious aspect, is it permissible for me... O Shaykh?
The Shaykh : Why don't you let him talk to me and call me so I can understand from him.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : What is your opinion?
The questioner: Okay, based on the matters I told you, is it permissible for me to go out? I swear to Allah, I am a martyr in this, meaning if they want us not to go out, I am not going out of the prayer hall. I am ready, meaning, if they just let me learn, is it permissible for me to do this?
The Shaykh : You did not understand, you did not understand me.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : I told you, if you were in a university exclusively for women and girls, and the husband does not want that, the wife must obey him.
The questioner: He tells me to study.
The Shaykh: There is no power nor strength except with Allah.
The questioner: My uncle, the Shaykh, may Allah give you patience with me, but just a little.
The Shaykh : But what do I need to be patient for, O my Lord, while I am waiting for people to ask me questions like yours? You are prolonging the explanation and not understanding me. Your seeking of knowledge is good, but your seeking of knowledge is not an individual obligation.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : If the husband asks his wife for something that is not obligatory for her.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : The wife must obey him, and I will let you hear a hadith in which he (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
A woman does not fast a voluntary fast except with the permission of her husband, except for the fast of Ramadan.
لا تصوم امرأة صوم نافلة إلا بإذن الزَّوج إلا صوم رمضانThe questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : She does not obey him, but if she wants to fast six days of Shawwal and he says to her, no, do not fast; she must obey him. Do you understand the difference between the two examples?
The questioner: I understand, yes.
The Shaykh : If you understand, your university studies are not obligatory.
The questioner: Okay, is it forbidden for me? Do I sin if he agrees? If he agrees, do I sin from the legal aspect? Do I sin?
The Shaykh : If he agrees? You are saying he is not agreeing, may Allah guide you.
The questioner: He told me, if I cannot bear it regarding your religion, I agree.
The Shaykh : Let him, let him call me so I can give him the answer.
The questioner: Okay, O Shaykh.
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