Caution in Inquiring About the Religion, Character, and Companions of a Prospective Husband
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Question:
This questioner from Riyadh, Abu Muhammad (A. A.), says: If a man proposes to marry my daughter and I am told that this prospective husband is diligent in observing the prayers completely at all their times, is that sufficient for me to accept him as a husband, or are there other matters I should ask about, such as smoking, his travels, his companions, and so on?
Answer:
Caution requires a complete inquiry into his conduct, his deeds, and his companions so that you are fully informed. Otherwise, while being diligent in the prayers is a sign of good, there may be other things with him. If you ask about him thoroughly, that is more complete and a better precaution for the trust you hold regarding this daughter, or sister, or the like; because she is a trust.
Therefore, it is obligatory for you to exercise caution for her sake, especially in this age when the good and the bad are mixed, the Muslim and the disbeliever are mixed, and the sinners and the righteous are mixed. It is obligatory for the guardian to exercise caution; for this reason, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1084Da'if (Darussalam) How can you be satisfied with his religion and character when you have not asked the good, righteous people about him? Mere attendance at prayer is not sufficient, even though that is a sign of good and a sign of guidance. But the precaution is to ask about his conduct as well...
The presenter : May Allah reward you—O Shaykh—and bless you, your knowledge, and the benefit He has given the Muslims through you.
This questioner from Riyadh, Abu Muhammad (A. A.), says: If a man proposes to marry my daughter and I am told that this prospective husband is diligent in observing the prayers completely at all their times, is that sufficient for me to accept him as a husband, or are there other matters I should ask about, such as smoking, his travels, his companions, and so on?
Answer:
Caution requires a complete inquiry into his conduct, his deeds, and his companions so that you are fully informed. Otherwise, while being diligent in the prayers is a sign of good, there may be other things with him. If you ask about him thoroughly, that is more complete and a better precaution for the trust you hold regarding this daughter, or sister, or the like; because she is a trust.
Therefore, it is obligatory for you to exercise caution for her sake, especially in this age when the good and the bad are mixed, the Muslim and the disbeliever are mixed, and the sinners and the righteous are mixed. It is obligatory for the guardian to exercise caution; for this reason, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
When someone whose religion and character you are pleased with proposes to (someone under the care) of one of you, then marry to him. If you do not do so, then there will be turmoil (Fitnah) in the land and abounding discord (Fasad).
إذا خطب إليكم من ترضون دينه وخلقه؛ فزوجوه إلا تفعلوه؛ تكن فتنة في الأرض، وفساد كبيرThe presenter : May Allah reward you—O Shaykh—and bless you, your knowledge, and the benefit He has given the Muslims through you.
Source
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