Advice to a woman complaining about her brother's mistreatment of her
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Question:
We return, at the beginning of this episode, to a letter we received from Jordan. The sender forgot to mention his name. We presented part of her questions in a previous episode, and in this episode he asks about an issue between a woman and her brother. He says: There is a woman complaining about a harsh brother, and she describes him with bad attributes. She says that he threatens her by causing her divorce from her husband, and she seeks guidance. May Allah reward you with good. How should she deal with such a brother?
Answer:
In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. Praise be to Allah, and may Allah send prayers and blessings upon the Messenger of Allah, and upon his family and his Companions, and upon those who follow his guidance. As for what follows:
What I advise this woman to do is to use a good manner with her brother, and kind words, and to pray for him in his absence, that Allah may guide him, lead him, and protect him from Satan, and from his injustice toward her and her husband. She should ask about the causes of the problems so that they can be resolved. If it is possible for uncles, maternal uncles, or good neighbors to mediate between them and reconcile them, that is good.
In any case, I advise her to be gentle, use kind words, have a good manner, and be patient and enduring until Allah resolves the problem between them. However, if the husband is not good in his religion, and her brother wants her to leave him because of the corruption of his religion—such as him not praying, or him insulting the religion, or him being a person of open sins—then her brother is correct and advising her in this. If she asks this husband to reform or to divorce her if he is a Muslim. But if he does not pray, or if he has something of the nullifiers of Islam, such as insulting the religion, or attaching oneself to the worship of graves, then it is not permissible for her to remain with him, and she is a Muslim, and her brother is advising her. It is obligatory for her to leave him, and to ask the court to separate them, and that he not approach her if he is a disbeliever. He should not approach her at all, not through intercourse or otherwise, until Allah accepts his repentance.
So the result is: if there are religious matters that the brother takes issue with regarding the husband, she should contact the authorities in the court, and present her problem with the husband to the court. The court looks into the matter. If he is a Muslim, the court advises him to repent to Allah from his sins. If he is a disbeliever, the court advises him to repent and return to Allah. And whoever repents, Allah accepts his repentance. With gentleness and wisdom, and returning to what Allah has prescribed, the problems end and the problems are resolved—by the permission of Allah. Yes.
The presenter: May Allah reward you with good.
We return, at the beginning of this episode, to a letter we received from Jordan. The sender forgot to mention his name. We presented part of her questions in a previous episode, and in this episode he asks about an issue between a woman and her brother. He says: There is a woman complaining about a harsh brother, and she describes him with bad attributes. She says that he threatens her by causing her divorce from her husband, and she seeks guidance. May Allah reward you with good. How should she deal with such a brother?
Answer:
In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. Praise be to Allah, and may Allah send prayers and blessings upon the Messenger of Allah, and upon his family and his Companions, and upon those who follow his guidance. As for what follows:
What I advise this woman to do is to use a good manner with her brother, and kind words, and to pray for him in his absence, that Allah may guide him, lead him, and protect him from Satan, and from his injustice toward her and her husband. She should ask about the causes of the problems so that they can be resolved. If it is possible for uncles, maternal uncles, or good neighbors to mediate between them and reconcile them, that is good.
In any case, I advise her to be gentle, use kind words, have a good manner, and be patient and enduring until Allah resolves the problem between them. However, if the husband is not good in his religion, and her brother wants her to leave him because of the corruption of his religion—such as him not praying, or him insulting the religion, or him being a person of open sins—then her brother is correct and advising her in this. If she asks this husband to reform or to divorce her if he is a Muslim. But if he does not pray, or if he has something of the nullifiers of Islam, such as insulting the religion, or attaching oneself to the worship of graves, then it is not permissible for her to remain with him, and she is a Muslim, and her brother is advising her. It is obligatory for her to leave him, and to ask the court to separate them, and that he not approach her if he is a disbeliever. He should not approach her at all, not through intercourse or otherwise, until Allah accepts his repentance.
So the result is: if there are religious matters that the brother takes issue with regarding the husband, she should contact the authorities in the court, and present her problem with the husband to the court. The court looks into the matter. If he is a Muslim, the court advises him to repent to Allah from his sins. If he is a disbeliever, the court advises him to repent and return to Allah. And whoever repents, Allah accepts his repentance. With gentleness and wisdom, and returning to what Allah has prescribed, the problems end and the problems are resolved—by the permission of Allah. Yes.
The presenter: May Allah reward you with good.
Source
binbaz.org.sa
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