The ruling on the divorce of one who threatened his son with divorcing his mother if he did not obey him
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Question:
A letter reached the program from Al-Mukhaymah, sent by our brother Ahmad Ali al-'Umrani. Our brother asks and says: I am a man whose mother cannot read or write, and I have a son in the fourth grade who does not study. I threatened him by saying to him: “I am divorced from the back of your mother if you do not study; I will do such and such to you.” His mother was upset by the word divorce. We ask you to issue a ruling on this. May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
If the intention behind this divorce is to encourage your son to study and take care of his lessons, and your intention is not to divorce his mother and separate from her, but rather to frighten him and frighten his mother so that they both strive in what concerns the lessons, and so that his mother is diligent with him; then there is no harm in that for you. You owe the expiation of an oath if the desired result does not occur, if he is lax and does not take your words seriously and does not strive; then you owe the expiation of the oath, and there is no divorce upon you. Nothing takes effect upon her according to the correct opinion of the scholars.
As for if your intention is to separate from her if the son does not strive, intending to separate from her, that you will leave her if her son does not strive; because you think that she is lax with him and that she does not encourage him. If you intended that; then a divorce takes effect upon her if he is lax and does not care about your words; one divorce takes effect upon her, and you take her back immediately, and there is no harm in that for you. This is if you intended to divorce her, if you intended the divorce.
As for if you intended only to frighten and warn, then this word is in the ruling of an oath, and you owe its expiation according to the most correct opinion of the scholars of knowledge: which is feeding ten poor people, or clothing them, or freeing a slave. If you are unable to do so, you fast three days. This is the expiation of the oath.
We advise you not to be hasty in matters, and not to use divorce. Rather, encourage him and advise him with good words, and discipline him if you see fit to discipline him with light beating. As for divorce, leave it. Yes.
The presenter: May Allah reward you with good.
A letter reached the program from Al-Mukhaymah, sent by our brother Ahmad Ali al-'Umrani. Our brother asks and says: I am a man whose mother cannot read or write, and I have a son in the fourth grade who does not study. I threatened him by saying to him: “I am divorced from the back of your mother if you do not study; I will do such and such to you.” His mother was upset by the word divorce. We ask you to issue a ruling on this. May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
If the intention behind this divorce is to encourage your son to study and take care of his lessons, and your intention is not to divorce his mother and separate from her, but rather to frighten him and frighten his mother so that they both strive in what concerns the lessons, and so that his mother is diligent with him; then there is no harm in that for you. You owe the expiation of an oath if the desired result does not occur, if he is lax and does not take your words seriously and does not strive; then you owe the expiation of the oath, and there is no divorce upon you. Nothing takes effect upon her according to the correct opinion of the scholars.
As for if your intention is to separate from her if the son does not strive, intending to separate from her, that you will leave her if her son does not strive; because you think that she is lax with him and that she does not encourage him. If you intended that; then a divorce takes effect upon her if he is lax and does not care about your words; one divorce takes effect upon her, and you take her back immediately, and there is no harm in that for you. This is if you intended to divorce her, if you intended the divorce.
As for if you intended only to frighten and warn, then this word is in the ruling of an oath, and you owe its expiation according to the most correct opinion of the scholars of knowledge: which is feeding ten poor people, or clothing them, or freeing a slave. If you are unable to do so, you fast three days. This is the expiation of the oath.
We advise you not to be hasty in matters, and not to use divorce. Rather, encourage him and advise him with good words, and discipline him if you see fit to discipline him with light beating. As for divorce, leave it. Yes.
The presenter: May Allah reward you with good.
Source
binbaz.org.sa
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