The Reality of Shighar and Its Ruling
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Question:
If one of the brothers has a daughter and a proposal is made for her, and he says: "I want to marry one of your daughters just as you married us to your daughter," is this shighar, or is it permissible?
Answer:
This is shighar. This is shighar, which is a marriage of bodies, so it is not permissible. This leads to the oppression of women, to fitnah (trial, discord or temptation), and to many evils, and it leads to the dropping of mahr (the bridal gift) ... for the sake of sexual relations, among other things.
Authentic hadiths have been narrated from the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) forbidding the marriage of shighar, even if there is a mahr (the bridal gift). Some scholars said: If there is a full mahr (the bridal gift), the customary mahr (the bridal gift), that suffices and it is permissible. However, this is the weaker position.
The correct view is that it is not permissible, even if there are hundreds of thousands, as long as this condition is present. It is established from Mu'awiyah (may Allah be pleased with him) that it was reported to him that so-and-so and so-and-so had married in a marriage of shighar, and they had named a mahr (the bridal gift). So he wrote to the governor of Madinah to invalidate the marriage, and he said: "This is the shighar that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) forbade."
If one of the brothers has a daughter and a proposal is made for her, and he says: "I want to marry one of your daughters just as you married us to your daughter," is this shighar, or is it permissible?
Answer:
This is shighar.
Shighar is when a man says: "Marry me to your daughter and I will marry you to my daughter," or "Marry me to your sister and I will marry you to my sister."
الشغار أن يقول الرجل: زوجني بنتك وأزوجك بنتي، أو زوجني أختك وأزوجك أختيAuthentic hadiths have been narrated from the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) forbidding the marriage of shighar, even if there is a mahr (the bridal gift). Some scholars said: If there is a full mahr (the bridal gift), the customary mahr (the bridal gift), that suffices and it is permissible. However, this is the weaker position.
The correct view is that it is not permissible, even if there are hundreds of thousands, as long as this condition is present. It is established from Mu'awiyah (may Allah be pleased with him) that it was reported to him that so-and-so and so-and-so had married in a marriage of shighar, and they had named a mahr (the bridal gift). So he wrote to the governor of Madinah to invalidate the marriage, and he said: "This is the shighar that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) forbade."
Source
binbaz.org.sa
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