I order my wife to take off her trousers, but she refuses and says: I am with you, and there is no one else but us.
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The questioner : He says: Honorable Shaykh, I order my wife to take off her trousers, but she refuses and says: I am with you, and there is no one else but us.
So what should I do, O honorable?
The Shaykh : In what?
The questioner : He says: She refuses and says: I am with you.
The Shaykh : First, first?
The questioner : He says: I order my wife to take off her trousers.
The Shaykh : Trousers?
The questioner : Yes, and she refuses and says: I am with you, and there is no one else but us. So what should I do, O honorable Shaykh? Should I boycott her in the bedroom? Guide me, may Allah reward you with good. And is there a sin on me after the advice?
The Shaykh : This is an easy matter. You are the one in authority over her. Take the trousers from her and burn them while she is looking at them, and let her wear a shirt and what covers her. How can she overpower you? You are a man and she is a woman?[An-Nisa 4:34] And what? When the Mighty and Majestic said regarding the woman: [An-Nisa 4:128] He did not say: strike her. The man was told: [An-Nisa 4:34] You have authority over her. And if it were not that she wants this clothing, she would not have gone to argue with you, because in relation to you, she can be completely naked in the bed, and there would be no trousers, no pants, and nothing at all on her, but rather you both would have a cloak so that you are not exposed. And if this is acceptable for the husband, what is the benefit of the trousers? And I tell you: seek help from Allah against her, take her trousers and burn them, and she will submit to the truth, if Allah wills.
Yes.
So what should I do, O honorable?
The Shaykh : In what?
The questioner : He says: She refuses and says: I am with you.
The Shaykh : First, first?
The questioner : He says: I order my wife to take off her trousers.
The Shaykh : Trousers?
The questioner : Yes, and she refuses and says: I am with you, and there is no one else but us. So what should I do, O honorable Shaykh? Should I boycott her in the bedroom? Guide me, may Allah reward you with good. And is there a sin on me after the advice?
The Shaykh : This is an easy matter. You are the one in authority over her. Take the trousers from her and burn them while she is looking at them, and let her wear a shirt and what covers her. How can she overpower you? You are a man and she is a woman?
But those [wives] from whom you fear arrogance - [first] advise them; [then if they persist], forsake them in bed
وَاللَّاتِي تَخَافُونَ نُشُوزَهُنَّ فَعِظُوهُنَّ وَاهْجُرُوهُنَّ فِي الْمَضَاجِعِand strike them
وَاضْرِبُوهُنَّAnd if a woman fears from her husband contempt or evasion, there is no sin upon them if they make terms of settlement between them
وَإِنِ امْرَأَةٌ خَافَتْ مِنْ بَعْلِهَا نُشُوزاً أَوْ إِعْرَاضاً فَلا جُنَاحَ عَلَيهِمَا أَنْ يُصْلِحَا بَيْنَهُمَا صُلْحاًBut those [wives] from whom you fear arrogance - [first] advise them; [then if they persist], forsake them in bed; and [finally], strike them
وَاللَّاتِي تَخَافُونَ نُشُوزَهُنَّ فَعِظُوهُنَّ وَاهْجُرُوهُنَّ فِي الْمَضَاجِعِ وَاضْرِبُوهُنَّYes.