Continuation of the explanation of the statement of Ibn Mas'ud (may Allah be pleased with him): (… and that none of you should promise his child something and then not fulfill it for him).

The Shaykh : Therefore, Ibn Mas'ud said: "Lying is not right, whether in seriousness or in jest, and it is not right for any of you to promise his child something and then not fulfill it for him." This point addresses an issue that many fathers and mothers fall into in their upbringing of their children. Ibn Mas'ud added this to the phrase "Lying is not right in any seriousness or jest," saying: "And it is not right either…" meaning "It is also not right." "For any of you to promise his child something and then not fulfill it for him," knowing that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said in some authentic hadiths: And in another hadith: And in a third hadith: This analogy is very serious; it contains blame for one who gives a gift to a person and then takes it back and regrets it. Such a person who returns to his gift is like a dog that returns to its vomit. "Returns to its vomit" means he takes back what he had expelled. How can he take it back when it is a disgusting thing? This is like the one who gives someone something from his wealth and then takes it back. However, a father with his son is permitted to do so; that is, it is permissible for the father to take back the gift he gave to his son. The meaning of "permissible" here is that it is valid, unlike if the gift was directed to another man other than the son, in which case the taking back is not considered valid, meaning he has no right to take it back. For example, if a man buys a need from a merchant and before they separate, the buyer is permitted to take back his purchase from the merchant. He says to him: "I have changed my mind." There is no legal obstacle at all, but on the condition that it is before they separate. And there is no sin, no guilt, and no… on this person who regrets his purchase. But the permissibility mentioned in the hadith regarding the father taking back his gift to his son means that the Shari'ah, i.e., the judiciary, rules in his favor regarding the taking back. But is this good? That is another matter. The answer is in the hadith of Ibn Mas'ud when he said: "Lying is not right in seriousness or jest," and he said: "And it is not right for any of you to promise his child something and then not fulfill it for him." This is more emphatic in preventing the father from taking back the gift he gave to his son, because he says: He did not give it to him, because all that happened is that he promised it. Nevertheless, it is considered that it is not among the noble morals for a father to promise his child something as a gift and then not fulfill it for him, not execute it for him. This is not right in Islam. But if the father does something of this with his son, it is valid, but it is contrary to Islamic etiquette.
The summary of this chapter is what I mentioned in the previous discourse: that the Muslim must always and forever adhere to truthfulness in his speech and always and forever avoid lying in it, except what you are compelled to do. So when that is the case, this rule—"except what you are compelled to do"—can be made a rule for people, especially those who have no knowledge of what is permissible for them regarding lying between spouses and in reconciling people, so that relationships between spouses are not ruined in the name of reconciliation due to the expansion of taking a dispensation in using lying between them, i.e., between spouses. We ask Allah (Mighty and Majestic) to stamp us with the stamp of truthfulness in our speech always and forever, and to record us with Him among the truthful ones. And peace be upon you.