A man from Libya emigrated, and his wife is tabarruj (displaying her adornment) and does not obey him, and she wants him to return to Libya. Should he divorce his wife or return to Libya?
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The questioner: Peace be upon you.
The Shaykh: And upon you peace.
The questioner : How are you, Shaykh?
The Shaykh : Praise be to Allah, I am well.
The questioner : Praise be to Allah. How are you?
The Shaykh : I am well, if Allah wills, and so are you.
The questioner : Praise be to Allah. I ... the Friday prayer, I sat with you in the car ... .
The Shaykh : Are you the Libyan man?
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : O Shaykh, you did not understand what I said to you.
The Shaykh : My brother, why did you not understand me? We went on that long trip, bought the goods, and came back, and you did not understand me during the entire trip. Now, with this short trip over the phone, you do not understand me.
The questioner : No, I meant when I said to you ...
The Shaykh : Listen, my brother. May Allah guide you. Listen.
The questioner: Amen.
The Shaykh : Listen, may Allah guide you. How do you want me to understand you in these moments? No problem.[Az-Zumar 39:10] I am repeating my answer to you.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : I am saying that you have the choice between two options.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Either you divorce your wife who does not obey you,
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : who is tabarruj (displaying her adornment), does not listen to your word, and does not follow the Shari'ah of her Lord. So either you divorce her, especially since you have made it clear to me that she does not respond to you, and you said you would emigrate with her. I told you: either you divorce her, or you return to her.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : And your return to that country is a nullification of your emigration. So you are now between two fires. I told you, between two evils. And I told you that fiqh (Islamic jurisprudence) says: if a Muslim falls between two evils and must choose one of them, he chooses the one with the lesser evil. The lesser evil for you, as it appears to me, is to divorce her, and your Lord will replace her with something better. I have said all this to you, and I am repeating it to you now. And remember well that you said: "What is your opinion if we wait two or three months?"
The questioner : Yes, and we did not finish the conversation after that.
The Shaykh : No, no, the conversation was finished, and I am finishing it for you now. I told you there is no objection on my part to you waiting two or three months, perhaps Allah will bring about a matter after that. But the important thing is: do you have this patience?
The questioner : We will be patient.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : ... .
The Shaykh : So perhaps you understood me?
The questioner: Yes, I understood.
The Shaykh : Okay, do you have anything else?
The questioner : May Allah bless you, O Shaykh.
The Shaykh : So I say, bidding farewell, peace be upon you.
The questioner : The Shaykh :
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : Do not forget us in your supplication.
The Shaykh : I hope for you a near relief, if Allah wills.
The questioner : May Allah reward you.
The Shaykh: Peace be upon you.
The questioner : And upon you be peace, and the mercy of Allah and His blessings.
The Shaykh : Poor people, poor people.
The student : Once, Qaddafi executed his Minister of Defense because of a new antique sofa that had a chandelier lamp on it, one of which was burnt. He said to the Minister of Defense, "Go and change this lamp for me ... step on the new antique sofa." Qaddafi was affected by it, so he said to him, "O son of the noble, put the newspaper under your foot." He said: "No ... .
The Shaykh: Hehehe.
The Shaykh: And upon you peace.
The questioner : How are you, Shaykh?
The Shaykh : Praise be to Allah, I am well.
The questioner : Praise be to Allah. How are you?
The Shaykh : I am well, if Allah wills, and so are you.
The questioner : Praise be to Allah. I ... the Friday prayer, I sat with you in the car ... .
The Shaykh : Are you the Libyan man?
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : O Shaykh, you did not understand what I said to you.
The Shaykh : My brother, why did you not understand me? We went on that long trip, bought the goods, and came back, and you did not understand me during the entire trip. Now, with this short trip over the phone, you do not understand me.
The questioner : No, I meant when I said to you ...
The Shaykh : Listen, my brother. May Allah guide you. Listen.
The questioner: Amen.
The Shaykh : Listen, may Allah guide you. How do you want me to understand you in these moments? No problem.
Indeed, the patient will be given their reward without account."
إِنَّمَا يُوَفَّى الصَّابِرُونَ أَجْرَهُمْ بِغَيْرِ حِسَابٍThe questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : I am saying that you have the choice between two options.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Either you divorce your wife who does not obey you,
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : who is tabarruj (displaying her adornment), does not listen to your word, and does not follow the Shari'ah of her Lord. So either you divorce her, especially since you have made it clear to me that she does not respond to you, and you said you would emigrate with her. I told you: either you divorce her, or you return to her.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : And your return to that country is a nullification of your emigration. So you are now between two fires. I told you, between two evils. And I told you that fiqh (Islamic jurisprudence) says: if a Muslim falls between two evils and must choose one of them, he chooses the one with the lesser evil. The lesser evil for you, as it appears to me, is to divorce her, and your Lord will replace her with something better. I have said all this to you, and I am repeating it to you now. And remember well that you said: "What is your opinion if we wait two or three months?"
The questioner : Yes, and we did not finish the conversation after that.
The Shaykh : No, no, the conversation was finished, and I am finishing it for you now. I told you there is no objection on my part to you waiting two or three months, perhaps Allah will bring about a matter after that. But the important thing is: do you have this patience?
The questioner : We will be patient.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : ... .
The Shaykh : So perhaps you understood me?
The questioner: Yes, I understood.
The Shaykh : Okay, do you have anything else?
The questioner : May Allah bless you, O Shaykh.
The Shaykh : So I say, bidding farewell, peace be upon you.
The questioner : The Shaykh :
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : Do not forget us in your supplication.
The Shaykh : I hope for you a near relief, if Allah wills.
The questioner : May Allah reward you.
The Shaykh: Peace be upon you.
The questioner : And upon you be peace, and the mercy of Allah and His blessings.
The Shaykh : Poor people, poor people.
The student : Once, Qaddafi executed his Minister of Defense because of a new antique sofa that had a chandelier lamp on it, one of which was burnt. He said to the Minister of Defense, "Go and change this lamp for me ... step on the new antique sofa." Qaddafi was affected by it, so he said to him, "O son of the noble, put the newspaper under your foot." He said: "No ... .
The Shaykh: Hehehe.
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