Discussion on the ruling of kissing the hand of a father or mother

The student : The question, O Shaykh, has something else behind it.

The Shaykh : I am not interested in that. Keep it to yourself, may Allah guide you, without exposing your situation. Keep it to yourself now, correct your first question, and then show us what is behind the veil.
The student : My question is about kissing the hand of a scholar.

The Shaykh: Yes.
The student : On what evidence?

The Shaykh : The evidence is that the hands of the scholars among the Companions were kissed.
The student : The question that follows: Is it out of reverence or following?

The Shaykh : Not following.
The student : Following whom?

The Shaykh : Following the Companions of the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him), whom they were commanded to follow, as He (Glorified and Exalted is He) said: Is there any analogy? Say no.
The student: No.

The Shaykh : Praise be to Allah, we are relieved.
The student : So why did they kiss this man's hand?

The Shaykh : Which man?
The student : Salama ibn al-Akwa.

The Shaykh : Because he was one of the Companions of the Messenger (peace be upon him). You should not ask why they kissed it? That is a wrong question. Why did he accept the kissing?
The student : No, I am not asking about that.

The Shaykh: May Allah forgive you.
The student : I am not asking about that.

The Shaykh : O Shaykh, may Allah guide you. Those who kissed it may have been from the general people. So you are asking why the general people kissed it? You should ask why he accepted the kissing?
The student : Because he saw the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) kiss his hand. Well, this is with the Companions, the Companions of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him). How do we answer those who...

The Shaykh : Because they share with the Companions in knowledge and virtue.
The student : So, as I said, we kiss the hand of the scholar for his knowledge and virtue, and out of reverence and respect for him.

The Shaykh : If you had stopped there, all this discussion would not have happened. We might say it is as you said, and what is behind that?
The student : Behind that is kissing the hand of the scholar, this and that, which shares with the kissing.

The Shaykh : Say what is behind that, may Allah guide you. This is a repetition of what was previously explained.
The student: Ah, okay.

The Shaykh : What is behind that?
The student : Behind that, which is greater, O Shaykh, respecting the mother?

The Shaykh : Here the problem begins.
The student : ... .

The Shaykh : You are going to ruin things for yourself.
The student : No, O Shaykh, we want knowledge.

The Shaykh: Go ahead.
The student : We want knowledge. You forbade kissing the hand of the mother.

The Shaykh : Yes.
The student : ... whereas kissing the hand of the scholar ... is following the Companions (may Allah be pleased with them) because they are people of virtue.

The Shaykh : You did not summarize well. Now, based on your previous words, but ... as I said earlier, you will see when the dust settles whether there is a horse or a donkey under you. Follow your words.
The student : My words are why ... the mother, and it is greater than ...

The Shaykh : Because of two things: The first thing: The cause that you were going around and around with, you are now fleeing from it, whether you like it or not. This is clear.
The student : And it is.

The Shaykh : Reverence and knowledge. Here there is no knowledge.
The student : The status of the parents is great.

The Shaykh : One, one. Here there is no knowledge. You are now saying the status of the mother is great. Do I disagree with you on this?
The student : No, you do not disagree.

The Shaykh : So why do you bring a new cause that needs discussion? The cause that you turned your words around, and I did not oppose you in it, for fear that you would reach this result. Because you took the reasoning by restricting the cause to reverence and respect. So I knew from afar that you wanted to apply this cause to the mother. Whereas the discussion that took place between me and you is not the reverence of the elder, but the reverence of the scholar. This is one point, perhaps it has become clear.
The student: Yes.

The Shaykh : The other point: We would not have said that kissing the hand of the scholar is permissible unless the Salaf did so. Because it is from our methodology and our way to follow the righteous Salaf, unlike many people who want to take rulings from the Book and the Sunnah ... without presenting this understanding to what the righteous Salaf were upon. Do you agree with me in this methodology?
The student: No.

The Shaykh : Well, now we say: If the Salaf had not kissed the hand of the scholar, we would have restricted the kissing to the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) and said this is a matter that has no connection to what came after the Messenger. Because the Salaf did not do so, as ... So now you know by proof ... that it is not reported from the Salaf that one of them ... his father or mother by kissing the hand ... The first aspect is that the cause is: knowledge, and here there is no knowledge. The other aspect is following, and here there is no following. So it falls ... or at least ... okay, okay.