Is it permissible for a man to take his family to visit the graves of the martyrs of Uhud and to visit the grave of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him)?
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The questioner : He said: I mentioned, may Allah guide you, the visitation of al-Baqi' and the martyrs of Uhud. Is it permissible for a man to take his women to those places? And is it also permissible for a woman to enter the Rawdah near the grave of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him)?
The Shaykh : Yes, this is a question, and it contains a point of caution for which we are grateful. Women do not visit graveyards because the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him and his family) said: And cursing is being driven away and kept distant from the mercy of Allah. There is no difference between al-Baqi', the martyrs of Uhud, and other graveyards of the Muslims. It is not permissible for a woman to leave her house intending to visit a graveyard. If she does so, she is cursed, may Allah protect us from that. However, if she passes by graveyards without the intention of visiting and stops to make du'a' for the people of the graves, there is no harm.
As for visiting the grave of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him and his family) and the graves of his two companions, some scholars have granted a dispensation for this and said: "A woman's visit to the grave of the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him and his family) and the graves of his two companions is not a visit" because the place of the three graves is surrounded by three walls. So she is not standing at the grave, and there is a barrier between her and the graves. So even if she stands, for example, in the Rawdah as the questioner says, she is not a visitor to the grave because there is a barrier of three walls between her and it. But despite this, we see that a woman should not visit the grave of the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) and the graves of his two companions, because if she goes there, it is said that she visited the grave. So it is a customary visit, even if it is not a real one. It is a visit, but a customary visit, so we do not see that she should go. Then, is not the purpose of standing at the grave that your salam reaches the Messenger? The answer is yes, that is the purpose. And with this, we say that if you send salam to him at the farthest point of the earth, your salam will reach him. Because Allah has appointed angels who travel in the earth; if someone sends salam to the Messenger, they convey the salam to the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him). That is, if we now say, "O Allah, send blessings and peace upon the Messenger of Allah," our salam is conveyed to him. In the prayer, you say, "Peace be upon you, O Prophet, and the mercy of Allah and His blessings," and the salam is conveyed to him. "O Allah, send blessings and peace upon him." So there is no necessity for the woman to come to the grave.
I heard some people say in Madinah that my father bequeathed to me to send salam to the Messenger. He said, "Send my salam to the Messenger." What do you say about this bequest? This is a mistake. The Messenger is not alive so that the salam of a living person can be conveyed to him.
Then, if your father sent salam to the Messenger, his salam was conveyed by those who are more capable than you of delivering it and more trustworthy than you. Who are they? The angels. So there is no need. We say that you are in your place, in any place on earth, and you say, "Peace be upon you, O Prophet," and it will reach him faster than this, more securely, and better. Yes.
The Shaykh : Yes, this is a question, and it contains a point of caution for which we are grateful. Women do not visit graveyards because the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him and his family) said:
Cursed are the women who visit graves
لعن زائرات القبورAs for visiting the grave of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him and his family) and the graves of his two companions, some scholars have granted a dispensation for this and said: "A woman's visit to the grave of the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him and his family) and the graves of his two companions is not a visit" because the place of the three graves is surrounded by three walls. So she is not standing at the grave, and there is a barrier between her and the graves. So even if she stands, for example, in the Rawdah as the questioner says, she is not a visitor to the grave because there is a barrier of three walls between her and it. But despite this, we see that a woman should not visit the grave of the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) and the graves of his two companions, because if she goes there, it is said that she visited the grave. So it is a customary visit, even if it is not a real one. It is a visit, but a customary visit, so we do not see that she should go. Then, is not the purpose of standing at the grave that your salam reaches the Messenger? The answer is yes, that is the purpose. And with this, we say that if you send salam to him at the farthest point of the earth, your salam will reach him. Because Allah has appointed angels who travel in the earth; if someone sends salam to the Messenger, they convey the salam to the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him). That is, if we now say, "O Allah, send blessings and peace upon the Messenger of Allah," our salam is conveyed to him. In the prayer, you say, "Peace be upon you, O Prophet, and the mercy of Allah and His blessings," and the salam is conveyed to him. "O Allah, send blessings and peace upon him." So there is no necessity for the woman to come to the grave.
I heard some people say in Madinah that my father bequeathed to me to send salam to the Messenger. He said, "Send my salam to the Messenger." What do you say about this bequest? This is a mistake. The Messenger is not alive so that the salam of a living person can be conveyed to him.
Then, if your father sent salam to the Messenger, his salam was conveyed by those who are more capable than you of delivering it and more trustworthy than you. Who are they? The angels. So there is no need. We say that you are in your place, in any place on earth, and you say, "Peace be upon you, O Prophet," and it will reach him faster than this, more securely, and better. Yes.