Guidance and advice for raising children, presented by the Shaykh to a questioner.
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The questioner : Regarding 'Amr, he is very harsh and very stubborn, and he knows what is said to him.
The Shaykh : But surely, the older he gets, the gentler he becomes. What you have seen has changed from what he was when he was young, if Allah wills, his condition will become better.
The questioner : We ask Allah for that, meaning.
The Shaykh : He will listen to the word of his father and his mother.
The questioner : I am listening, Papa.
The Shaykh : And he will be polite and gentle and witty, listening to Papa and Mama, and learning the religious knowledge, so that they are pleased with you, if Allah wills.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good, if Allah wills.
The Shaykh : In any case, he needs a type of special care and gentleness with him, and harshness does not bring good.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : So as much as you can, take him with softness and gentleness, and his older brother should also be a helper with you in this path, if Allah wills.
The questioner : The process of prohibition and deprivation, or punishment, punishing him, for example, by depriving him of something.
The Shaykh : Hmm.
The questioner : That does not happen, our Shaykh.
The Shaykh: No.
The questioner : That does not happen, and not that you lock him, for example, in a room without hitting him, without harming him.
The Shaykh : No, I told you, harshness does not bring goodSunan Abi Dawud 495Hasan Sahih (Al-Albani).
The questioner: Yes.
The ShaykhSunan Abi Dawud 495Hasan Sahih (Al-Albani), but when he reaches the age of ten, use hitting; before that, you have no means except advice.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Our brother Sulayman, it seems you are in a hurry, are you coming together or not?
The questioner : Yes, together, our Shaykh, if this was a mistake previously and now we want this.
The Shaykh : May Allah forgive what has passed.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh : We are the children of today.
The questioner : Yes, Shaykh, it does not affect him, meaning these things that remain in his mind or in this, or not?
The Shaykh : Of course, but if the approach changes, he will forget this matter, if Allah wills.
The questioner : If Allah wills.
The Shaykh : And he will be upright on the right path.
The questioner : If Allah wills, what do you advise us, our Shaykh?
The Shaykh : May you be safe, only.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good.
The student : I hear my voice.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : I hear his voice, no?
The Shaykh : I did not hear your voice, I heard his voice, let him vent his nature.
The Shaykh : But surely, the older he gets, the gentler he becomes. What you have seen has changed from what he was when he was young, if Allah wills, his condition will become better.
The questioner : We ask Allah for that, meaning.
The Shaykh : He will listen to the word of his father and his mother.
The questioner : I am listening, Papa.
The Shaykh : And he will be polite and gentle and witty, listening to Papa and Mama, and learning the religious knowledge, so that they are pleased with you, if Allah wills.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good, if Allah wills.
The Shaykh : In any case, he needs a type of special care and gentleness with him, and harshness does not bring good.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : So as much as you can, take him with softness and gentleness, and his older brother should also be a helper with you in this path, if Allah wills.
The questioner : The process of prohibition and deprivation, or punishment, punishing him, for example, by depriving him of something.
The Shaykh : Hmm.
The questioner : That does not happen, our Shaykh.
The Shaykh: No.
The questioner : That does not happen, and not that you lock him, for example, in a room without hitting him, without harming him.
The Shaykh : No, I told you, harshness does not bring good
Command your children to pray when they become seven
مُرُوا أولادكم بالصلاة وهم أبناء سبعThe questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh
and beat them for it (prayer) when they become ten years old
واضربوهم عليها وهم أبناء عشرThe questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Our brother Sulayman, it seems you are in a hurry, are you coming together or not?
The questioner : Yes, together, our Shaykh, if this was a mistake previously and now we want this.
The Shaykh : May Allah forgive what has passed.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh : We are the children of today.
The questioner : Yes, Shaykh, it does not affect him, meaning these things that remain in his mind or in this, or not?
The Shaykh : Of course, but if the approach changes, he will forget this matter, if Allah wills.
The questioner : If Allah wills.
The Shaykh : And he will be upright on the right path.
The questioner : If Allah wills, what do you advise us, our Shaykh?
The Shaykh : May you be safe, only.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good.
The student : I hear my voice.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : I hear his voice, no?
The Shaykh : I did not hear your voice, I heard his voice, let him vent his nature.
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