What is the ruling on a mother accompanying her unmarried daughter to the house of her married daughter who is in the postpartum period, and staying overnight in the house of her daughter’s husband to serve her during her postpartum period?
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The questioner : In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
His EminenceThe Shaykh- May Allah preserve you, the Exalted - ... .
The questioner : In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
His EminenceThe Shaykh- May Allah preserve you, the Exalted, extend your life, make your deeds good, and conclude your deeds with righteousness - , I have a matter I hope you will clarify in detail with what Allah has taught you of the Book and wisdom. The matter revolves around the ruling on a mahram accompanying a woman who is his mahram within the city in a car, or sleeping in a house other than her own. The case is this: the husband of my sister insists on having a mahram accompany my other sister, or my wife, or my brother’s wife, or anyone else with him in the car he drives within the city, along with his wife, who is my sister or my mother, the mother of his wife, and both of them together. He refuses this most strongly. We say: As long as this is not travel and is not called seclusion, there is no harm if fitnah is avoided, especially if his wife or his wife’s mother, my mother, accompanies him; that is, in the company of women and within the city. Because this involves cooperation in going and coming, as sometimes the time may not be sufficient for one of us, or he may be tired on that day.
Furthermore, as far as I know, the Lawgiver has only forbidden what constitutes travel of a day and a night’s journey, or seclusion. The matter close to this is: my mother went to her daughter, the wife of this same person, to serve her during the days of postpartum bleeding after Allah, the Exalted, granted her a child. With my mother was my other sister, who is of age and not yet married. My mother is advanced in age and suffers from diabetes, may Allah, the Exalted, heal her and reward her. My mother and my sister stayed in the house of my sister’s husband for two days. Then my sister’s husband showed his dissatisfaction and said: My sister must be accompanied by a mahram in his house at night. He insisted on this, which forced my mother to leave his house. She became angry and said: I will not leave my other daughter with her brother because he goes to school during the day and she remains alone. She is not at ease and does not feel secure except in the company of her mother, meaning my mother. It is known that my sister has three brothers, all married, living in the city. A discussion occurred and intensified regarding this matter. My mother is insistent on keeping her daughter with her in the house of her sister’s husband, because requiring a mahram in this situation is not an obligation for which one who leaves it would be sinful. If my sister’s husband is not satisfied, then my mother will leave her daughter who gave birth to her own affairs and return to her house. It is known that my postpartum sister is in urgent need of someone to help her with her household, and she has seven children, boys and girls, including a daughter who is two years old and another who is three years old. Serving her takes about a week or ten days. Allah has commanded cooperation in righteousness and piety, and encouraged the reconciliation of relations. I hope for a detailed and precise answer, either on the back of the paper or on another sheet. May Allah reward you with good? A questioner from the Prophet’s City.
Another questioner: Let me, my Shaykh, write it down, and clarify the question for him more.
The Shaykh: There is no need for clarification, your handwriting is that of a calligrapher.
Another questioner: A calligrapher, my Shaykh ... .
The Shaykh: It should not be like the writing of a duck on the shore!!
The questioner : Please, Shaykh.
The Shaykh: Are you perhaps electrified by the answer?
The questioner: No, by Allah, just ... .
Another questioner: Any pen, my Shaykh, even if the writing is not beautiful, the pen writes on its own!!
The Shaykh: In the name of Allah, and prayers and peace be upon the Messenger of Allah. As for what follows: My answer to what came in this detailed question is in two forms, brief and detailed:
And the brief one is as he suspectedThe questioner : ; that there is nothing on the mother of the postpartum woman to prevent her from accompanying her other daughter to her postpartum sister - that is, to her brother-in-law’s house - .
As for the detailed answer, it is as follows: There is a fatwa and there is piety in the matter. As for the fatwa, it is as previously stated; namely, permissibility, but on the condition that the daughter does not remain alone with her brother-in-law, as is known from the prohibition of seclusion.
As for piety, it is based on his saying, peace and blessings be upon him, in the well-known hadith from al-Nu'man ibn Bashir, may Allah be pleased with them both, who said: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said: , and his other saying, peace and blessings be upon him and his family: =
-- Where did you get to?Another questioner : . The Shaykh: Know that whoever goes around the protected area is likely to fall into it. Know that every king has a protected area, and know that the protected area of Allah is His prohibitions. Know that whoever goes around the protected area is likely to fall into it , and his saying, peace and blessings be upon him and his family: --
=Sunan an-Nasa'i 5711Sahih (Darussalam) .
This piety aligns with the concern of the husband mentioned in the question, but he errs in that he did not distinguish between the fatwa and piety, especially since the question suggests that the mother of the postpartum woman is unable to adhere to this piety. Therefore, we do not advise this husband to insist on his opinion, because it is considered excessive strictness in religion and a failure to distinguish between what should be adhered to, which is the fatwa.
His EminenceThe Shaykh- May Allah preserve you, the Exalted - ... .
The questioner : In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
His EminenceThe Shaykh- May Allah preserve you, the Exalted, extend your life, make your deeds good, and conclude your deeds with righteousness - , I have a matter I hope you will clarify in detail with what Allah has taught you of the Book and wisdom. The matter revolves around the ruling on a mahram accompanying a woman who is his mahram within the city in a car, or sleeping in a house other than her own. The case is this: the husband of my sister insists on having a mahram accompany my other sister, or my wife, or my brother’s wife, or anyone else with him in the car he drives within the city, along with his wife, who is my sister or my mother, the mother of his wife, and both of them together. He refuses this most strongly. We say: As long as this is not travel and is not called seclusion, there is no harm if fitnah is avoided, especially if his wife or his wife’s mother, my mother, accompanies him; that is, in the company of women and within the city. Because this involves cooperation in going and coming, as sometimes the time may not be sufficient for one of us, or he may be tired on that day.
Furthermore, as far as I know, the Lawgiver has only forbidden what constitutes travel of a day and a night’s journey, or seclusion. The matter close to this is: my mother went to her daughter, the wife of this same person, to serve her during the days of postpartum bleeding after Allah, the Exalted, granted her a child. With my mother was my other sister, who is of age and not yet married. My mother is advanced in age and suffers from diabetes, may Allah, the Exalted, heal her and reward her. My mother and my sister stayed in the house of my sister’s husband for two days. Then my sister’s husband showed his dissatisfaction and said: My sister must be accompanied by a mahram in his house at night. He insisted on this, which forced my mother to leave his house. She became angry and said: I will not leave my other daughter with her brother because he goes to school during the day and she remains alone. She is not at ease and does not feel secure except in the company of her mother, meaning my mother. It is known that my sister has three brothers, all married, living in the city. A discussion occurred and intensified regarding this matter. My mother is insistent on keeping her daughter with her in the house of her sister’s husband, because requiring a mahram in this situation is not an obligation for which one who leaves it would be sinful. If my sister’s husband is not satisfied, then my mother will leave her daughter who gave birth to her own affairs and return to her house. It is known that my postpartum sister is in urgent need of someone to help her with her household, and she has seven children, boys and girls, including a daughter who is two years old and another who is three years old. Serving her takes about a week or ten days. Allah has commanded cooperation in righteousness and piety, and encouraged the reconciliation of relations. I hope for a detailed and precise answer, either on the back of the paper or on another sheet. May Allah reward you with good? A questioner from the Prophet’s City.
Another questioner: Let me, my Shaykh, write it down, and clarify the question for him more.
The Shaykh: There is no need for clarification, your handwriting is that of a calligrapher.
Another questioner: A calligrapher, my Shaykh ... .
The Shaykh: It should not be like the writing of a duck on the shore!!
The questioner : Please, Shaykh.
The Shaykh: Are you perhaps electrified by the answer?
The questioner: No, by Allah, just ... .
Another questioner: Any pen, my Shaykh, even if the writing is not beautiful, the pen writes on its own!!
The Shaykh: In the name of Allah, and prayers and peace be upon the Messenger of Allah. As for what follows: My answer to what came in this detailed question is in two forms, brief and detailed:
And the brief one is as he suspectedThe questioner : ; that there is nothing on the mother of the postpartum woman to prevent her from accompanying her other daughter to her postpartum sister - that is, to her brother-in-law’s house - .
As for the detailed answer, it is as follows: There is a fatwa and there is piety in the matter. As for the fatwa, it is as previously stated; namely, permissibility, but on the condition that the daughter does not remain alone with her brother-in-law, as is known from the prohibition of seclusion.
As for piety, it is based on his saying, peace and blessings be upon him, in the well-known hadith from al-Nu'man ibn Bashir, may Allah be pleased with them both, who said: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:
Indeed, the lawful is clear and the forbidden is clear, and between them are matters of doubt about which many people do not know. Whoever avoids the doubtful matters has protected his religion and his honor. Know that every king has a protected area, and know that the protected area of Allah is His prohibitions. Know that whoever goes around the protected area is likely to fall into it
إن الحلال بيِّن والحرام بيِّن ، وبينهما أمورٌ مُشتبهات لا يعلمهنَّ كثير من الناس ، فمن اتَّقى الشبهات فقد استبرأ لدينه وعرضه ؛ ألا وإنَّ لكلِّ ملك حمى ، ألا وإنَّ حمى الله محارمه ، ألا ومَن حام حول الحمى يوشك أن يقع فيه-- Where did you get to?Another questioner :
has protected his religion and his honor
استبرأ لدينه وعرضه=
Leave that which makes you doubt for that which does not make you doubt.
دَعْ ما يريبك إلى ما لا يريبكThis piety aligns with the concern of the husband mentioned in the question, but he errs in that he did not distinguish between the fatwa and piety, especially since the question suggests that the mother of the postpartum woman is unable to adhere to this piety. Therefore, we do not advise this husband to insist on his opinion, because it is considered excessive strictness in religion and a failure to distinguish between what should be adhered to, which is the fatwa.
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