Advice is the fulfillment of an obligation
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Question: A young man proposed to my sister, and I had previously heard that he sometimes steals. He pointed this out to me, so I informed them of what I had heard about him and advised them not to accept the proposal. The marriage has now taken place, although I had the ability to stop it.
So what should I do to atone for what happened? Please advise us, may Allah reward you with good.
Answer: Since you have given advice and clarified what is wrong with this person, but your family did not accept the advice and proceeded to marry him, you have fulfilled the obligation, and nothing more is required of you. However, you are required to continue advising this young man, warning him of this matter, and making him fear Allah (Mighty and Majestic). This is what is within your capacity.
If you can influence your family to seek a separation between your daughter and this young man if he persists in this bad behavior, theft, and pilfering, and if you can influence your family to demand the separation of this bad man from your daughter, that is a good thing. You must do what you can, and Allah the Exalted knows best.
So what should I do to atone for what happened? Please advise us, may Allah reward you with good.
Answer: Since you have given advice and clarified what is wrong with this person, but your family did not accept the advice and proceeded to marry him, you have fulfilled the obligation, and nothing more is required of you. However, you are required to continue advising this young man, warning him of this matter, and making him fear Allah (Mighty and Majestic). This is what is within your capacity.
If you can influence your family to seek a separation between your daughter and this young man if he persists in this bad behavior, theft, and pilfering, and if you can influence your family to demand the separation of this bad man from your daughter, that is a good thing. You must do what you can, and Allah the Exalted knows best.