A man made a vow 27 years ago, so what is required of him?
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The questioner : One of the relatives made a vow 27 years ago and has not fulfilled this vow, so what is required of him?
The Shaykh : He must fulfill it.
The questioner : He owes nothing else; he does not have to fast.
The Shaykh : No, he owes nothing other than fulfilling it. Once he fulfills it, his conscience is clear. Yes.
The questioner : The questioner says here, “O Shaykh, I am a young man of moderate means, and by the grace of Allah, I am upright in my religious affairs. I proposed to one of the sisters who is in the College of Sharia, and she increased her demands, citing the saying of Allah the Exalted:[Al-A'raf 7:32] Does she have the right to what she is asking for?”
The Shaykh : If her request is permissible, she has the right. But the suitor has the right to refuse, so let him refuse, for everyone seeks what he loves.
The questioner : Some people make many demands, O Shaykh, regarding furniture and other items.
The Shaykh : My brother, we are not in disagreement; this is a separate matter. As for whether she has the right or not, he does not have the right to impose something on her by force; rather, he gives her the choice. If she seeks guidance and prefers to accept, she should do so; otherwise, she should not. As for the matter of being lenient with mahr (bridal gifts) and not exaggerating in them, that is a known matter. But if the woman to be married desires a specific, high mahr, for example, an exorbitant one, she does not have the right to that, in the sense that it is not good for her. However, this is not forbidden for her, as Allah the Exalted said:[An-Nisa 4:20] This verse clarifies that the matter is as stated in the authentic hadith: So if the mahr is high, the husband should provide that to his wife. But it is not good to exaggerate in mahr; that is a separate matter. Please, go ahead.
The Shaykh : He must fulfill it.
The questioner : He owes nothing else; he does not have to fast.
The Shaykh : No, he owes nothing other than fulfilling it. Once he fulfills it, his conscience is clear. Yes.
The questioner : The questioner says here, “O Shaykh, I am a young man of moderate means, and by the grace of Allah, I am upright in my religious affairs. I proposed to one of the sisters who is in the College of Sharia, and she increased her demands, citing the saying of Allah the Exalted:
Say, "Who has forbidden the adornment of Allah which He has produced for His servants and the good [lawful] things of provision?"
قل من حرم زينة الله التي أخرج لعباده والطيبات من الرزقThe Shaykh : If her request is permissible, she has the right. But the suitor has the right to refuse, so let him refuse, for everyone seeks what he loves.
The questioner : Some people make many demands, O Shaykh, regarding furniture and other items.
The Shaykh : My brother, we are not in disagreement; this is a separate matter. As for whether she has the right or not, he does not have the right to impose something on her by force; rather, he gives her the choice. If she seeks guidance and prefers to accept, she should do so; otherwise, she should not. As for the matter of being lenient with mahr (bridal gifts) and not exaggerating in them, that is a known matter. But if the woman to be married desires a specific, high mahr, for example, an exorbitant one, she does not have the right to that, in the sense that it is not good for her. However, this is not forbidden for her, as Allah the Exalted said:
and you have given one of them a great amount [in gifts], do not take [back] from it anything. Would you take it in injustice and manifest sin?
وإن آتيتم إحداهن قنطارا فلا تأخذوا منه شيئا ، أتأخذونه بهتانا وإثما مبيناThe most deserving of conditions to be fulfilled are those by which you have made lawful the private parts.
أحق الشروط بالوفاء ما استحللتم به الفروج
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