A brother’s question about the ruling on dealing with his father who utters words contrary to the Shari'ah and the like?
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The questioner : The father whom you mentioned, regarding the invitation to our brother Hisham and the one who invited you, and we spoke, and the father also spoke with him, was in a period where he did not pray for a very long time, until he passed the age, and may Allah the Lord of the Worlds improve his condition, and praise be to Allah, he let his beard grow, and now he is in...
The Shaykh : Who is this?
The questioner : My father.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : But truly, something, I mean, personally for me, I cannot find an explanation for it; I mean, as my brothers tell me, and I am in Saudi Arabia, that he utters words and does deeds with my brothers, I mean, very difficult ones, and they are not mentioned, in fact, in this context, matters, I mean, words...
The Shaykh : ... its explanation is in what I heard just now.
The questioner : Upbringing.
The Shaykh : Upbringing, that is how he was raised, that is how he grew up.
The questioner : But truly, - our Shaykh - I mean, I am certain from your speech that before, I mean, he did not adhere, we never used to hear from him these words or these movements.
The Shaykh : Well, that is...
The questioner : Yes, I mean, truly, throughout my life, I never heard him utter a bad word, and - for example - do a heinous act - for example - except in this period.
The Shaykh : Okay; what is the reason?
The questioner : This is what, I mean, we wanted, we wanted to present to you, perhaps you, I mean.
The Shaykh : You present it to me, if you were living with him... I might be able to answer you perhaps.
Another questioner : Old age has come upon him and he felt past pains... there are children, so he wants to compensate for it by making them adhere or tightening up on them.
The Shaykh : He wants to tighten up on them.
The questioner : The opposite.
The Shaykh : Okay; is there an occasion for this abnormality? Is there disobedience - for example - from the children?
The questioner : The children, yes, the children, my sisters are not adhering to the hijab, and my brothers are not all praying, most of them.
The Shaykh : So from the aspect...
The questioner : Yes, he tells them: you do not pray, so he wakes them up some times at the time of Fajr, get up and pray - for example - they do not respond to him, of course, yes, so these violations make him, at some times, comment on a simple matter - for example - very much about eating and he utters words.
The Shaykh : Here we need to see what his position is? Here when he orders them to pray, they do not respond.
The questioner : They do not respond.
The Shaykh : And those abnormal words come out of him that you say: it is not possible to mention them?
The questioner : Yes, indeed.
The Shaykh : Okay; why did you mention now eating, not eating?
The questioner : The intention is that he gets agitated with them at the slightest thing.
Another questioner : He gets annoyed with them.
The questioner : Like eating, yes; I mean - for example - if he wants to raise his voice, the least simple thing - for example - perhaps one of the children leaves the spoon on the table, he raises his voice and speaks with these difficult words.
The Shaykh : In any case, we have nothing as long as they are far from the person's situation.
The questioner : Okay; personally for me, I mean, I am realistic with him, I mean, I remain, I mean, obedience, of course, complete, whatever it is.
The Shaykh : Okay; did you advise him at some point?
The questioner : I sat, yes, I sat with him, and yes, and I spoke with him, I, this is truly the period during the two years, I was in the leave that passed, yes, I was speaking with him; even when I spoke with him, of course, he loves me a lot, and this is from the favor of my Lord upon me; I mean, he cried, and as if he felt, I mean, anger, yes, but when I returned this year, of course, he is now in Hajj, I mean, he was in Saudi Arabia; so the brothers and sisters were complaining to me.
The Shaykh : Is this his first Hajj?
The questioner : This is his first one, yes.
The Shaykh : Perhaps he will bring good...
The questioner : We ask Allah for that.
The Shaykh : Who is this?
The questioner : My father.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : But truly, something, I mean, personally for me, I cannot find an explanation for it; I mean, as my brothers tell me, and I am in Saudi Arabia, that he utters words and does deeds with my brothers, I mean, very difficult ones, and they are not mentioned, in fact, in this context, matters, I mean, words...
The Shaykh : ... its explanation is in what I heard just now.
The questioner : Upbringing.
The Shaykh : Upbringing, that is how he was raised, that is how he grew up.
The questioner : But truly, - our Shaykh - I mean, I am certain from your speech that before, I mean, he did not adhere, we never used to hear from him these words or these movements.
The Shaykh : Well, that is...
The questioner : Yes, I mean, truly, throughout my life, I never heard him utter a bad word, and - for example - do a heinous act - for example - except in this period.
The Shaykh : Okay; what is the reason?
The questioner : This is what, I mean, we wanted, we wanted to present to you, perhaps you, I mean.
The Shaykh : You present it to me, if you were living with him... I might be able to answer you perhaps.
Another questioner : Old age has come upon him and he felt past pains... there are children, so he wants to compensate for it by making them adhere or tightening up on them.
The Shaykh : He wants to tighten up on them.
The questioner : The opposite.
The Shaykh : Okay; is there an occasion for this abnormality? Is there disobedience - for example - from the children?
The questioner : The children, yes, the children, my sisters are not adhering to the hijab, and my brothers are not all praying, most of them.
The Shaykh : So from the aspect...
The questioner : Yes, he tells them: you do not pray, so he wakes them up some times at the time of Fajr, get up and pray - for example - they do not respond to him, of course, yes, so these violations make him, at some times, comment on a simple matter - for example - very much about eating and he utters words.
The Shaykh : Here we need to see what his position is? Here when he orders them to pray, they do not respond.
The questioner : They do not respond.
The Shaykh : And those abnormal words come out of him that you say: it is not possible to mention them?
The questioner : Yes, indeed.
The Shaykh : Okay; why did you mention now eating, not eating?
The questioner : The intention is that he gets agitated with them at the slightest thing.
Another questioner : He gets annoyed with them.
The questioner : Like eating, yes; I mean - for example - if he wants to raise his voice, the least simple thing - for example - perhaps one of the children leaves the spoon on the table, he raises his voice and speaks with these difficult words.
The Shaykh : In any case, we have nothing as long as they are far from the person's situation.
The questioner : Okay; personally for me, I mean, I am realistic with him, I mean, I remain, I mean, obedience, of course, complete, whatever it is.
The Shaykh : Okay; did you advise him at some point?
The questioner : I sat, yes, I sat with him, and yes, and I spoke with him, I, this is truly the period during the two years, I was in the leave that passed, yes, I was speaking with him; even when I spoke with him, of course, he loves me a lot, and this is from the favor of my Lord upon me; I mean, he cried, and as if he felt, I mean, anger, yes, but when I returned this year, of course, he is now in Hajj, I mean, he was in Saudi Arabia; so the brothers and sisters were complaining to me.
The Shaykh : Is this his first Hajj?
The questioner : This is his first one, yes.
The Shaykh : Perhaps he will bring good...
The questioner : We ask Allah for that.
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