How do we deal with those who mock the religion, the committed, the beard, and the thobe?
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The questioner : Some of my colleagues have a nature inclined to humor and merriment, and sometimes this humor takes the form of mockery and ridicule of the religion.
The Shaykh: Allahu Akbar.
The questioner : For example, mocking the beard, mocking the thobe, mocking the religious person in general, mocking the religion based on an old model or fashion; so which is better, that we accommodate him and treat him with kind words, or that we do not pressure him and press him with words?
The Shaykh : May Allah bless you, this differs. If you are new to your association with him.
The questioner : No, it is long-standing.
The Shaykh : Well, if you have been associated with him for a long time, you must have heard from him what is obligatory for you to advise him.
The questioner : Praise be to Allah, I have not fallen short with him, but I want the optimal approach...
The Shaykh : I am coming to you with words, and I say that you must have heard from him what is obligatory of advice and good admonition. So the same words I told you about the person you live with in your work, I told you if you despair of him; so also the same words are said to you regarding this second type. You advised him time after time, round after round, so if you reach despair of him and wash your hands of him, you do what is necessary of the words that wound, with its etiquette, because as it is said: "The slave is struck with the stick, and the free man is satisfied with a gesture." Is that clear? You must have understood from what you understood that, my brother, you are indeed joking, but in your knowledge you are a Muslim man, so you are mocking the religion and the people of the religion. You do not know that this takes you out of the religion just as hair is taken out of dough. And you, you have no questioner regarding what is forbidden and what is lawful; you do not disbelieve based on what you hear, you want to hear the rest. If he says to you, "No, I seek refuge in Allah, I do not want such a thing," and so on, then you use gentleness with him. And if you see from him indifference, you become severe with him.
The questioner : No, from the first type you mentioned, but he is always contemplative, by the mercy of Allah, by the forgiveness of Allah, and I say that Allah is Forgiving and Merciful.
The Shaykh : Yes, but you also hear him say to him that Allah, in the completeness of His attribute, is severe in punishment...
The questioner : We have heard it, but he is insistent on the first one.
The Shaykh : What does the verse say:[An-Nisa 4:123] You want to strike his ear with this verse, and there is a hadith that hums around this meaning in other wording. Its meaning is correct, but it is not established from the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him). So I mention it to throw what I mention at two birds with one stone. First, I remind you that this hadith is weak, because you must hear it from the preachers often. Second, its meaning is beautiful. So if we want to admonish people like this man you are talking about now, we tell him that in the saying: "The wise one is he who disciplines himself and works for what is after death, and the incapable one is he who follows his own desires and hopes for the promises of Allah." So this type of human being does not act upon the verse, nor upon the hadith, even if it is weak, he considers it.
Abu Layla : Our Shaykh, today something happened to me, perhaps we can benefit from the noble brother...
The Shaykh: Allahu Akbar.
The questioner : For example, mocking the beard, mocking the thobe, mocking the religious person in general, mocking the religion based on an old model or fashion; so which is better, that we accommodate him and treat him with kind words, or that we do not pressure him and press him with words?
The Shaykh : May Allah bless you, this differs. If you are new to your association with him.
The questioner : No, it is long-standing.
The Shaykh : Well, if you have been associated with him for a long time, you must have heard from him what is obligatory for you to advise him.
The questioner : Praise be to Allah, I have not fallen short with him, but I want the optimal approach...
The Shaykh : I am coming to you with words, and I say that you must have heard from him what is obligatory of advice and good admonition. So the same words I told you about the person you live with in your work, I told you if you despair of him; so also the same words are said to you regarding this second type. You advised him time after time, round after round, so if you reach despair of him and wash your hands of him, you do what is necessary of the words that wound, with its etiquette, because as it is said: "The slave is struck with the stick, and the free man is satisfied with a gesture." Is that clear? You must have understood from what you understood that, my brother, you are indeed joking, but in your knowledge you are a Muslim man, so you are mocking the religion and the people of the religion. You do not know that this takes you out of the religion just as hair is taken out of dough. And you, you have no questioner regarding what is forbidden and what is lawful; you do not disbelieve based on what you hear, you want to hear the rest. If he says to you, "No, I seek refuge in Allah, I do not want such a thing," and so on, then you use gentleness with him. And if you see from him indifference, you become severe with him.
The questioner : No, from the first type you mentioned, but he is always contemplative, by the mercy of Allah, by the forgiveness of Allah, and I say that Allah is Forgiving and Merciful.
The Shaykh : Yes, but you also hear him say to him that Allah, in the completeness of His attribute, is severe in punishment...
The questioner : We have heard it, but he is insistent on the first one.
The Shaykh : What does the verse say:
Paradise is not [obtained] by your wishful thinking nor by that of the People of the Scripture. Whoever does a wrong will be recompensed
ليس بأمانيكم ولا أماني أهل الكتاب من يعمل سوءا يجز بهAbu Layla : Our Shaykh, today something happened to me, perhaps we can benefit from the noble brother...
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