Does a mother’s ablution become invalid if she touches her son’s private part while washing him?
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The questioner : This questioner says: If a woman washes her child of impurity while she is in a state of ritual purity and has performed ablution, does her ablution become invalid?
The Shaykh : Her ablution does not become invalid. That is, a mother’s ablution does not become invalid if she washes the private part of her son or daughter. This is because touching the private part does not invalidate the ablution unless it is for the sake of sexual desire. If it is not for sexual desire, it does not invalidate the ablution. Even if a person touches his own private part without sexual desire, his ablution does not become invalid. If it is for sexual desire, it becomes invalid. The evidence is that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) was asked about a man who touches his private part during prayer: does he have to perform ablution? He said:Bulugh al-Maram 72. The meaning of "a piece" is a part. Just as if you touched your ear, your ablution would not become invalid, and if you touched your leg, your ablution would not become invalid, so if you touch your private part, your ablution does not become invalid because it is a part of you. However, if it is for sexual desire, it becomes invalid, based on the saying of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him): Sunan Abi Dawud 181Sahih (Al-Albani). It is well known that a mother cannot possibly touch the private part of her son or the private part of her daughter while cleaning them for the sake of sexual desire, ever. That is impossible. The conclusion now is: If a woman washes the private part of her daughter or the private part of her son, her ablution does not become invalid. Yes.
The questioner : If there is impurity, O Shaykh, the question mentions feces or urine?
The Shaykh : Even with impurity. That is, if a person washes the impurity on himself or on someone else, his ablution does not become invalid. However, he must wash his hands after handling the impurity.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh : Her ablution does not become invalid. That is, a mother’s ablution does not become invalid if she washes the private part of her son or daughter. This is because touching the private part does not invalidate the ablution unless it is for the sake of sexual desire. If it is not for sexual desire, it does not invalidate the ablution. Even if a person touches his own private part without sexual desire, his ablution does not become invalid. If it is for sexual desire, it becomes invalid. The evidence is that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) was asked about a man who touches his private part during prayer: does he have to perform ablution? He said:
No, it is only a part of your body
لا إنما هو بضعة منكHe who touches his penis should perform ablution.
من مس ذكره فليتوضأThe questioner : If there is impurity, O Shaykh, the question mentions feces or urine?
The Shaykh : Even with impurity. That is, if a person washes the impurity on himself or on someone else, his ablution does not become invalid. However, he must wash his hands after handling the impurity.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good.