What is the ruling on showing off with a gift?
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The questioner : May Allah guide you, O Shaykh. What is the ruling on showing off with a gift?
The Shaykh : Are you reading the Qur'an? Read[Al-Baqarah 2:264]. When you give, make it for Allah. If it is charity, or if it is a gift, then intend by it to bring closeness between you and the person, for the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: And he said: meaning what is in the heart of resentment and the like. And do not show off, my brother, do not show off. But give me an example of showing off, like saying...
The questioner : For example: he bought something for his brother from the grocery store, and after a period of time he came and said: I bought for you a while ago, so buy for me.
The Shaykh : What?
The questioner : He bought something for his brother from the grocery store, and after a period of time he said to his brother: Buy for me, I bought for you once, the last time.
The Shaykh : He said to his brother.
The questioner : Buy for me, I bought for you the last time.
The Shaykh : No, this is not good, it is not good. Or, for example, he gives him a gift, and when there is anger or something between them, he says: This is my reward for the day I gave you this and gave you that. This is not permissible. Yes.
The questioner : May Allah reward you, O father.
The Shaykh : No, in order, my brother. It is it. Good.
The Shaykh : Are you reading the Qur'an? Read
O you who have believed, do not invalidate your charities with reminders or injury
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لا تُبْطِلُوا صَدَقَاتِكُمْ بِالْمَنِّ وَالْأَذَىGive gifts to one another, and you will love one another
تهادوا تحابواA gift removes resentment
الهدية تذهب السخيمةThe questioner : For example: he bought something for his brother from the grocery store, and after a period of time he came and said: I bought for you a while ago, so buy for me.
The Shaykh : What?
The questioner : He bought something for his brother from the grocery store, and after a period of time he said to his brother: Buy for me, I bought for you once, the last time.
The Shaykh : He said to his brother.
The questioner : Buy for me, I bought for you the last time.
The Shaykh : No, this is not good, it is not good. Or, for example, he gives him a gift, and when there is anger or something between them, he says: This is my reward for the day I gave you this and gave you that. This is not permissible. Yes.
The questioner : May Allah reward you, O father.
The Shaykh : No, in order, my brother. It is it. Good.