What is the ruling on giving to some children and not to others?
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Question:
The listener Anis Yahya from the city of al-Dawadimi sent a message asking and complaining about his father's bad treatment. He says: "I have an older brother, and my father married him off and gave him a car, but he did not do for me what he did for my brother, despite people advising him. Then he gave me a piece of land, so I dealt with it and sold it, and I delivered the price to my father. Then my father asked for the price of that land, but I refused to give it to him. He asks Your Eminence, the Shaykh, how he should handle this? And if he goes to court, will he be sinful? Direct him and direct his father. May Allah reward you with good."
Answer:
It is obligatory for the father to be just, and it is not permissible for him to give a gift or an addition to some of the children over the rest of the children; this is not permissible. This is because the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) said:Sahih al-Bukhari 2587. This is the word of the Chosen One (peace and blessings be upon him): Sahih al-Bukhari 2587. And when Bashir ibn Sa'd al-Ansari (may Allah be pleased with him) came to him and mentioned that he had given his son al-Nu'man a slave, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said to him: . He said: No. He said: Sahih al-Bukhari 2587. So he has no right to give some of them a car, money, or land and not give the others. No, rather, he must either equalize the giving among them or return his gift. This is what is obligatory upon him.
And you, O son! If you mediate through some of the good relatives or others so that they reconcile you with your father, that would be good, if Allah wills, and better than going to court. If it is facilitated for someone to advise your father and counsel him so that he adheres to the truth and is just, that is good, and this is preferable to litigation. If he refuses, then you have the right to litigate against him in court. You have the right to litigate against him because he has wronged you. It is necessary for one who has transgressed the path to be corrected; it is necessary that he be made just and compelled to the truth through the court. And if you permit it and do not litigate against him, then you will be rewarded. Yes.
The presenter: May Allah reward you with good.
The listener Anis Yahya from the city of al-Dawadimi sent a message asking and complaining about his father's bad treatment. He says: "I have an older brother, and my father married him off and gave him a car, but he did not do for me what he did for my brother, despite people advising him. Then he gave me a piece of land, so I dealt with it and sold it, and I delivered the price to my father. Then my father asked for the price of that land, but I refused to give it to him. He asks Your Eminence, the Shaykh, how he should handle this? And if he goes to court, will he be sinful? Direct him and direct his father. May Allah reward you with good."
Answer:
It is obligatory for the father to be just, and it is not permissible for him to give a gift or an addition to some of the children over the rest of the children; this is not permissible. This is because the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
Be afraid of Allah, and be just to your children.
اتقوا الله واعدلوا بين أولادكمBe afraid of Allah, and be just to your children.
اتقوا الله واعدلوا بين أولادكمDid you give all your children the same as him?
أعطيت ولدك كلهم مثله؟Be afraid of Allah, and be just to your children.
رده، اتقوا الله واعدلوا بين أولادكمAnd you, O son! If you mediate through some of the good relatives or others so that they reconcile you with your father, that would be good, if Allah wills, and better than going to court. If it is facilitated for someone to advise your father and counsel him so that he adheres to the truth and is just, that is good, and this is preferable to litigation. If he refuses, then you have the right to litigate against him in court. You have the right to litigate against him because he has wronged you. It is necessary for one who has transgressed the path to be corrected; it is necessary that he be made just and compelled to the truth through the court. And if you permit it and do not litigate against him, then you will be rewarded. Yes.
The presenter: May Allah reward you with good.
Source
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