The Book of Friday Prayer, the Two Festivals, the Prayer for Rain, the Eclipse Prayer, and Funerals-07b
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The reciter: And Abu Bakr ibn Abi Shaybah, and Zuhayr ibn Harb, and Ishaq ibn Ibrahim, all narrated from Abu Mu'awiyah. Zuhayr said: Muhammad ibn Hazim narrated to us from Asim from Hafsah from Umm Atiyyah, who said: Sahih Muslim 937.
The Shaykh : In this is evidence that lamentation which does not go out into shouting or wailing is permissible. Her statement: "They were kind to me in the pre-Islamic age of ignorance" means: They were kind to me regarding my lamentation, and she wanted to return that kindness to them. It seems this was a known practice among them, that some would help others in times of calamity by gathering and the like. But this is a matter that Islam abrogated, and gathering at the home of the deceased became contrary to the Sunnah. Some scholars have explicitly stated that it is a religious innovation.
When this verse was revealed:" When believing women came to thee giving thee a pledge that they will not associate aught with Allah, and will not disobey thee in good" (lx. 12), she (Umm Atiyya) said: In (this pledge) was also included wailing. I said: Messenger of Allah, except members of such a tribe who helped me (in lamentation) during pre-Islamic days, there is left no alternative for me, but that I should also help them. Upon this the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: (Yes) but only in case of the members of such a tribe.
لَمَّا نَزَلَتْ هَذِهِ الْآيَةُ: يُبَايِعْنَكَ عَلَى أَنْ لَا يُشْرِكْنَ بِاللهِ شَيْئًا وَلَا يَعْصِينَكَ فِي مَعْرُوفٍ قَالَتْ: كَانَ مِنْهُ النِّيَاحَةُ، قَالَتْ: فَقُلْتُ: يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ، إِلَّا آلَ فُلَانٍ، فَإِنَّهُمْ كَانُوا أَسْعَدُونِي فِي الْجَاهِلِيَّةِ، فَلَا بُدَّ لِي مِنْ أَنْ أُسْعِدَهُمْ، فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: إِلَّا آلَ فُلَانٍThe Shaykh : In this is evidence that lamentation which does not go out into shouting or wailing is permissible. Her statement: "They were kind to me in the pre-Islamic age of ignorance" means: They were kind to me regarding my lamentation, and she wanted to return that kindness to them. It seems this was a known practice among them, that some would help others in times of calamity by gathering and the like. But this is a matter that Islam abrogated, and gathering at the home of the deceased became contrary to the Sunnah. Some scholars have explicitly stated that it is a religious innovation.