Explanation of the author's statement: And his saying (… boasting about lineages, and disparaging genealogies …)

The Shaykh : He said: Boasting means exalting oneself and magnifying oneself. The preposition "ba" here indicates cause or reason, meaning he boasts because of the lineage he possesses. Lineage is what a person claims for himself in terms of honor and nobility. This lineage is what a person claims for himself in terms of honor and nobility, and he boasts with it. For example, if he is from the Banu Hashim, he boasts that he is a Hashimi because of the honor of his lineage. If his ancestors are famous for bravery and boldness, he boasts. Do you see? He boasts because he claims the honor of his fathers. If his fathers are famous for generosity, he boasts with that, and so on, of what a person claims for himself in terms of honor and nobility. You will find him boasting and magnifying himself over the creation of Allah. This is a matter of the pre-Islamic age of ignorance, because true boasting is not in this. True boasting is in the mindfulness of Allah, which prevents a person from exalting and magnifying himself. The truly mindful person, the truly wise person, is the one who, the more Allah increases His blessings upon him, the more he becomes humble before the truth and before people. Yes, and Allah the Exalted did not praise the person who magnifies himself when he sees that he has become self-sufficient; rather, He blamed him. So, boasting about lineage is the work of whom?
The student: The pre-Islamic age of ignorance.

The Shaykh : The pre-Islamic age of ignorance. And it is not permissible for us to do the deeds of the pre-Islamic age of ignorance, because Allah says to the wives of the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him): So it is known that everything attributed to the pre-Islamic age of ignorance is blameworthy and prohibited. Yes.

The questioner : O Shaykh, the saying of the Messenger:

The Shaykh : Yes, this is an example. He said: What he said, he boasts with it, or it is said that he said it in the context of war and fighting. There is no harm in a person boasting with it. For this reason, the style of arrogance was permitted in it, and wearing silk was permitted in it according to many scholars. Yes, and wearing ostrich feathers and the like, in order to anger the enemies. Yes.

The questioner : Shaykh.

The Shaykh : Yes

The questioner : ...

The Shaykh : If he says it in a way of boasting, then there is no doubt that he is in error. For example, if someone says, "You are just… disparaging lineage is coming to us soon." Only if it is in the way of boasting. But if it is in the way of information, then this is necessary. He says, "I am from Tamim," and this one says, "I am from Hawazin," and this one says, "I am from Hudhayl," and this one says, "I am from Rabi'ah." He must say it this way.

The questioner : ... .

The Shaykh : The issue of marriage is something else, and it has come before us, I think, in the etiquettes of marriage. We explained that the compatibility considered in the Shari'ah is religion and good character. That is what is considered in the Shari'ah, and the rest is merely customs. And we explained previously there that the statement that compatibility is in position is a weak statement. Making that a condition for the validity of the marriage is a weak statement.

The questioner : Something like this does not fall under … .

The Shaykh : It is not apparent that it falls under this, because what they say is in the way of boasting. If it is in the way of boasting, and he says, "I will not marry you to you because I am higher than you," then it falls under this category.

The questioner : He says it with the language of his state.

The Shaykh : Allah knows best. Sometimes it is.

The questioner : He says that he is a tribal member.

The Shaykh : Sometimes he says this with the language of his state, as I said, because he is higher than him. And sometimes people want to preserve their lineages. For this reason, it is always asked, "Is so-and-so a tribal member or a Khudayri?" He says, "No, he is a tribal member, because he is married to the family of so-and-so." So this is one of the causes of preserving lineages. And Allah knows best. In any case, it is a custom that was adopted, and some scholars made it one of the considered matters. But the correct view is that it is not considered, as mentioned earlier. This is one point.
Second: Disparaging genealogies. Disparaging means fault-finding, because fault-finding is a spiritual pricking, like the pricking of the plague in the body. For this reason, fault-finding is called disparaging. Genealogies is the plural of lineage, and what is lineage? Lineage is a person's origin and his kinship. So he disparages his lineage. Yes, for example, he says, "You are the son of the tanner." He disparages his lineage. "You are the son of the clitoridomist." Yes, "clitoridomist" means the one who circumcises women. The clitoris is a thing in the woman's private part that is cut in the circumcision of women. And they fault a person by saying he is the son of the clitoridomist. "Buzur" is with the letter "dhal" with a shaddah. The important thing is that this is disparaging lineage. And from it is also if he says, "What are you? You are a Khudayri. You have no origin." For this reason, it was said to some of them, "What do you say about the Khudayriyyah?" I say that they are from the nocturnal emission of Adam. Adam had a nocturnal emission, and they were born from his emission. I seek refuge in Allah. Meaning, some people have greed. Greediness. It is no doubt that this is an error. But the Khudayri is the one who claims descent from a tribe of the Arab tribes. He is from the Mawali after the Islamic conquests. These mixed with those, so whoever was not famous for a tribe of the Arab tribes to which he claimed descent was called a Khudayri. And "Tribal" is less severe than what some people say, "Shaykh" and "Abd." The Shaykh is the tribal member, and the Abd is the Khudayri. Yes. And in any case, the one who disparages a person's lineage because he is not from the known Arab tribes falls under this hadith. So it is not permissible to disparage lineage. And a person is not honored by his lineage. It is true that the honor of lineage with mindfulness of Allah is light upon light. But if he does not have mindfulness of Allah, what does his lineage benefit him? It does not benefit him anything. For what purpose? To boast. Only. As for the issue that this one is a Khudayri and this one is a tribal member, this is not correct, and there is no doubt. I do not say, and I do not deny, that lineage has an effect on the honor of a person. For this reason, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: And there is no doubt, as the Shaykh al-Islam said, that the Arabs are better in terms of race than others. They are better, more complete, and more intelligent. For this reason, Allah the Mighty and Majestic chose to make His Messenger from them. The Messenger is from them. But that does not mean that we make this matter override the true excellence, which is the excellence of faith and mindfulness of Allah. Yes. And disparaging genealogies is the third.