My family is asking me to divorce my wife on the grounds that she is not suitable for me. Is it obligatory for me to obey them, or not?
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The Shaykh: Yes.
The questioner : Hello.
The Shaykh: Yes.
The questioner: Peace be upon you.
The Shaykh : And peace be upon you.
The questioner : The Shaykh Muhammad Nasir al-Din?
The Shaykh: Yes.
The questioner : By Allah, we wanted to seek your fatwa on this matter.
The Shaykh: Go ahead.
The questioner : I am calling from Russia.
The Shaykh : Good, if Allah wills.
The questioner : If Allah wills, all is well, O Shaykh.
The Shaykh: Yes.
The questioner : I got married, and my family, I mean, is asking me to leave my wife.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : So, naturally, because they, I mean... that she is not suitable for me, and naturally, she, I mean, my wife says that the condition she is experiencing is the result of sorcery from my mother.
The Shaykh : Allahu Akbar! Yes.
The questioner : But Allah knows best, I mean, about this matter. So what is obligatory, I mean, is it obligatory to obey the family if they have a justification for the divorce, or if they do not?
The Shaykh : First.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Is your marriage according to the Islamic way, or according to the Western way?
The questioner : My wife is an Arab Muslim, I mean, I got married in the homeland.
The Shaykh : Before this, is your marriage according to the Islamic way, or according to the Western way?
The questioner : According to the Islamic way, of course.
The Shaykh: All right.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : And when you got married; did you get married in Russia, or where?
The questioner : In Palestine.
The Shaykh : In Palestine.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Then did you travel with her?
The questioner : Yes, to complete my education.
The Shaykh : And when you married her, were your family pleased with your marriage?
The questioner : At the beginning, no.
The Shaykh : And in the end?
The questioner : They agreed.
The Shaykh : And now?
The questioner : And now, no.
The Shaykh : Yes, that is the end.
The questioner : So.
The Shaykh : So you are contradicting yourself, saying: at the beginning no, in the end no.
The questioner : No, when, I mean, I presented, I mean, the matter to them, they did not agree, but out of respect for my wish, they agreed, and I married her, and we traveled.
The Shaykh : And now, are you, I mean, living with her a good, pleasing, and Islamic life?
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : And why do they want to divorce her from you?
The questioner : They, I mean, I do not know the reason, but they say that they do not like her.
The Shaykh : Do they not like her religion, or her character, or her beauty?
The questioner : Allah knows, but her character.
The Shaykh : And you like her character.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : And if you divorced her, would, I mean, your soul go in regret over her, or does her divorce not matter to you?
The questioner : No, it might go.
The Shaykh : It might go.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Are your parents religious and committed?
The questioner : One of them.
The Shaykh : The male or the female?
The questioner : The female.
The Shaykh : Is she the committed one?
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : And who is pressing you to divorce her?
The questioner : Both of them.
The Shaykh : Both of them. Now I will give you the answer after this clarification.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : If you are living with this Muslim wife a correct, pleasing Islamic life, and nothing about her character or her religion bothers you, then I do not see that you should submit to the request to divorce her. But if you feel that she is not as you described, then in that case, you should divorce her to please your parents, and you are the one who knows the truth of the matter.
The questioner : Hello.
The Shaykh: Yes.
The questioner: Peace be upon you.
The Shaykh : And peace be upon you.
The questioner : The Shaykh Muhammad Nasir al-Din?
The Shaykh: Yes.
The questioner : By Allah, we wanted to seek your fatwa on this matter.
The Shaykh: Go ahead.
The questioner : I am calling from Russia.
The Shaykh : Good, if Allah wills.
The questioner : If Allah wills, all is well, O Shaykh.
The Shaykh: Yes.
The questioner : I got married, and my family, I mean, is asking me to leave my wife.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : So, naturally, because they, I mean... that she is not suitable for me, and naturally, she, I mean, my wife says that the condition she is experiencing is the result of sorcery from my mother.
The Shaykh : Allahu Akbar! Yes.
The questioner : But Allah knows best, I mean, about this matter. So what is obligatory, I mean, is it obligatory to obey the family if they have a justification for the divorce, or if they do not?
The Shaykh : First.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Is your marriage according to the Islamic way, or according to the Western way?
The questioner : My wife is an Arab Muslim, I mean, I got married in the homeland.
The Shaykh : Before this, is your marriage according to the Islamic way, or according to the Western way?
The questioner : According to the Islamic way, of course.
The Shaykh: All right.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : And when you got married; did you get married in Russia, or where?
The questioner : In Palestine.
The Shaykh : In Palestine.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Then did you travel with her?
The questioner : Yes, to complete my education.
The Shaykh : And when you married her, were your family pleased with your marriage?
The questioner : At the beginning, no.
The Shaykh : And in the end?
The questioner : They agreed.
The Shaykh : And now?
The questioner : And now, no.
The Shaykh : Yes, that is the end.
The questioner : So.
The Shaykh : So you are contradicting yourself, saying: at the beginning no, in the end no.
The questioner : No, when, I mean, I presented, I mean, the matter to them, they did not agree, but out of respect for my wish, they agreed, and I married her, and we traveled.
The Shaykh : And now, are you, I mean, living with her a good, pleasing, and Islamic life?
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : And why do they want to divorce her from you?
The questioner : They, I mean, I do not know the reason, but they say that they do not like her.
The Shaykh : Do they not like her religion, or her character, or her beauty?
The questioner : Allah knows, but her character.
The Shaykh : And you like her character.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : And if you divorced her, would, I mean, your soul go in regret over her, or does her divorce not matter to you?
The questioner : No, it might go.
The Shaykh : It might go.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Are your parents religious and committed?
The questioner : One of them.
The Shaykh : The male or the female?
The questioner : The female.
The Shaykh : Is she the committed one?
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : And who is pressing you to divorce her?
The questioner : Both of them.
The Shaykh : Both of them. Now I will give you the answer after this clarification.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : If you are living with this Muslim wife a correct, pleasing Islamic life, and nothing about her character or her religion bothers you, then I do not see that you should submit to the request to divorce her. But if you feel that she is not as you described, then in that case, you should divorce her to please your parents, and you are the one who knows the truth of the matter.
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