I ask for guidance and advice, as my daughters, after leaving school, are being incited by people who ask them, “How did you leave school and university?”
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The questioner : My question is: my daughters, after leaving school, people come and incite them, inciting them, saying, “How did you leave school? How is this? Why are you not studying in university?” Yes, they come and make them cry, asking why they stopped going to school. And what do you want us to do? We taught them to make jilbabs, and they are making jilbabs, and praise be to Allah.
The Shaykh : They are sewing.
The questioner : Yes, indeed, wonderful jilbabs.
The Shaykh: Good.
The questioner : I mean, we have sewn about 50 or 60 jilbabs and distributed them, praise be to Allah. Their affairs are going well, but they need advice from you to remain steadfast, and for you to give them good awareness and guidance. May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh : In any case, I direct a general word to Muslim women, whether they are wives, sisters, or daughters, that they be among the believing righteous women and that they be among the few women in Paradise, because the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:Jami` at-Tirmidhi 2602Sahih (Darussalam). Therefore, the obligation of wives is to obey their husbands and not disobey them, except if he has disobeyed the rulings of his Lord (Blessed and Exalted is He), based on the well-known hadith: Mishkat al-Masabih 3696. However, if the husband orders his wife to do something whose ruling in the Shari'ah is that it is permissible but not obligatory, the husband’s order for her to do that permissible thing makes it obligatory for her. If she does not obey him, she has disobeyed her Lord (Mighty and Majestic) by contradicting her husband’s order, because the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) came in an authentic hadith saying: . This is regarding the wife. As for sisters and daughters, it is obligatory for them to obey their parents, because Allah (Mighty and Majestic) says: [Al-Isra 17:23-24]. The dutiful child must obey his father and mother, whether the child is male or female. However, the obedience that is obligatory for children, daughters are more deserving of realizing this obedience, because they are in need of someone to care for them and manage their affairs more than male children; because male children, due to being male, may be able to handle their affairs and manage their lives and livelihoods more than daughters. Therefore, we advise your daughters and the daughters of all Muslim women to obey Allah (Mighty and Majestic) in obeying their parents. Indeed, it is reported in "Musnad al-Imam Ahmad" that a man came to Abu al-Darda' and said: “O Abu al-Darda', my mother orders me to divorce my wife.”
The questioner : ... .
The Shaykh : How?
The questioner : ... he is speaking.
The Shaykh : This is from Hungary, yes.
The questioner : Peace be upon you, and Allah’s mercy and blessings.
The Shaykh : And upon you be peace, and the mercy of Allah and His blessings and His forgiveness.
The questioner : How are you, my Shaykh? How are your news?
The Shaykh : I praise Allah to you, I am well, praise be to Allah. And how are you?
The questioner : We have prolonged the time without asking about you and your news and your health.
The Shaykh : Welcome and welcome, may it be good, if Allah wills.
The questioner : There is absolutely nothing, by Allah. Indeed, we have missed you and your news.
The Shaykh : May Allah bless you.
The questioner : For this reason, I wanted to call you to ask about you and your health.
The Shaykh : May Allah bless you, I am well, praise be to Allah.
The questioner : Praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds. And how are the brothers with you?
The Shaykh : They are all well. How are you and how is your son?
The questioner : Praise, praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds.
The Shaykh : I forgot, is he a boy or a girl?
The questioner : A boy, a boy, 'Abd al-Rahman, my Shaykh.
The Shaykh : 'Abd al-Rahman, so you are then Abu 'Abd al-Rahman.
The questioner : Yes, yes.
The Shaykh : How is he, is he well?
The questioner : Praise be to Allah, he is good, praise be to Allah.
The Shaykh : And is Umm 'Abd al-Rahman well?
The questioner : And Umm 'Abd al-Rahman, and it appears that his brother is on the way, if Allah wills.
The Shaykh : You will become Abu 'Abdullah, meaning.
The questioner : Also, yes, heh.
The Shaykh : May Allah enable the good.
The questioner : O Allah, amen.
The Shaykh : Welcome.
The questioner : Does his salam reach you, our brother Shaykh Mandoor ...
The Shaykh : He is with you.
The questioner : No, no, he was with us at the beginning of September, he and our brother Shaykh 'Ali were at my house.
The Shaykh : Ah, yes, indeed.
The questioner : Yes, he is now in Albania.
The Shaykh : Yes, I know that, and that is why I thought he came to you.
The questioner : No, no, he spoke to me a few days ago, meaning.
The Shaykh : Yes, and how is his stay in Albania?
The questioner : By Allah, praise be to Allah, he says it is good. Here, in the context of da'wah, and so on, he teaches the new Albanian Muslims, and so on, praise be to Allah. Allah is the helper.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : Allah is the Helper.
The Shaykh : May Allah relieve the Muslims.
The questioner : Allah, amen, O Allah, amen. Good, my Shaykh, good. May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh : Welcome and welcome, and welcome.
The questioner : Greet all the brothers. Peace be upon you.
The Shaykh : And upon you be peace, and the mercy of Allah and His blessings.
The questioner : Is this from Syria?
The Shaykh : No, this is Jordanian.
The Shaykh : They are sewing.
The questioner : Yes, indeed, wonderful jilbabs.
The Shaykh: Good.
The questioner : I mean, we have sewn about 50 or 60 jilbabs and distributed them, praise be to Allah. Their affairs are going well, but they need advice from you to remain steadfast, and for you to give them good awareness and guidance. May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh : In any case, I direct a general word to Muslim women, whether they are wives, sisters, or daughters, that they be among the believing righteous women and that they be among the few women in Paradise, because the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
I looked into Paradise and I saw that the most of its people were the poor; and I looked into the Fire and I saw that most of its people were women.
اطَّلعت على الجنة فرأيت أكثر أهلها الفقراء ، واطَّلعت على النار فرأيت أكثر أهلها النساءA creature is not to be obeyed when it involves disobedience to the "Creator.”
لا طاعة لمخلوق في معصية الخالقIf a woman or wife prays her five prayers, fasts her month, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter the Paradise of her Lord from whichever gate of Paradise she wishes.
إن المرأة أو الزوجة إذا صلَّت خمسها ، وصامت شهرها ، وحفظت فرجها ، وأطاعت زوجها ؛ دخلت جنَّة ربِّها من أيِّ أبواب الجنة شاءت(23) And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as], "uff," and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word. (24) And lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy and say, "My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small."
وَقَضَى رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوا إِلَّا إِيَّاهُ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِنْدَكَ الْكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَا أَوْ كِلَاهُمَا فَلَا تَقُلْ لَهُمَا أُفٍّ وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُلْ لَهُمَا قَوْلًا كَرِيمًا " وَاخْفِضْ لَهُمَا جَنَاحَ الذُّلِّ مِنَ الرَّحْمَةِ وَقُلْ رَبِّ ارْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِي صَغِيرًاThe questioner : ... .
The Shaykh : How?
The questioner : ... he is speaking.
The Shaykh : This is from Hungary, yes.
The questioner : Peace be upon you, and Allah’s mercy and blessings.
The Shaykh : And upon you be peace, and the mercy of Allah and His blessings and His forgiveness.
The questioner : How are you, my Shaykh? How are your news?
The Shaykh : I praise Allah to you, I am well, praise be to Allah. And how are you?
The questioner : We have prolonged the time without asking about you and your news and your health.
The Shaykh : Welcome and welcome, may it be good, if Allah wills.
The questioner : There is absolutely nothing, by Allah. Indeed, we have missed you and your news.
The Shaykh : May Allah bless you.
The questioner : For this reason, I wanted to call you to ask about you and your health.
The Shaykh : May Allah bless you, I am well, praise be to Allah.
The questioner : Praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds. And how are the brothers with you?
The Shaykh : They are all well. How are you and how is your son?
The questioner : Praise, praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds.
The Shaykh : I forgot, is he a boy or a girl?
The questioner : A boy, a boy, 'Abd al-Rahman, my Shaykh.
The Shaykh : 'Abd al-Rahman, so you are then Abu 'Abd al-Rahman.
The questioner : Yes, yes.
The Shaykh : How is he, is he well?
The questioner : Praise be to Allah, he is good, praise be to Allah.
The Shaykh : And is Umm 'Abd al-Rahman well?
The questioner : And Umm 'Abd al-Rahman, and it appears that his brother is on the way, if Allah wills.
The Shaykh : You will become Abu 'Abdullah, meaning.
The questioner : Also, yes, heh.
The Shaykh : May Allah enable the good.
The questioner : O Allah, amen.
The Shaykh : Welcome.
The questioner : Does his salam reach you, our brother Shaykh Mandoor ...
The Shaykh : He is with you.
The questioner : No, no, he was with us at the beginning of September, he and our brother Shaykh 'Ali were at my house.
The Shaykh : Ah, yes, indeed.
The questioner : Yes, he is now in Albania.
The Shaykh : Yes, I know that, and that is why I thought he came to you.
The questioner : No, no, he spoke to me a few days ago, meaning.
The Shaykh : Yes, and how is his stay in Albania?
The questioner : By Allah, praise be to Allah, he says it is good. Here, in the context of da'wah, and so on, he teaches the new Albanian Muslims, and so on, praise be to Allah. Allah is the helper.
The Shaykh : Yes.
The questioner : Allah is the Helper.
The Shaykh : May Allah relieve the Muslims.
The questioner : Allah, amen, O Allah, amen. Good, my Shaykh, good. May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh : Welcome and welcome, and welcome.
The questioner : Greet all the brothers. Peace be upon you.
The Shaykh : And upon you be peace, and the mercy of Allah and His blessings.
The questioner : Is this from Syria?
The Shaykh : No, this is Jordanian.
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