Under the chapter on the treatment of wives.
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The Shaykh : Oh Allah.
The student: Praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds, and may peace and blessings be upon the noblest of the prophets and messengers.
The author (may Allah have mercy on him) transmitted: "From Abu Sa'id al-Khudri (may Allah be pleased with him), who said: The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said:Sahih Muslim 1437a It was narrated by Muslim.
And from Hakim ibn Mu'awiyah from his father (may Allah be pleased with him), who said:Bulugh al-Maram 8:63 It was narrated by Ahmad, Abu Dawud, al-Nasa'i, and Ibn Majah, and al-Bukhari mentioned part of it as a hanging narration, and Ibn Hibban and al-Hakim graded it as authentic. And from Jabir ibn Abdullah, who said: كانت اليهود تقول إذا أتى الرجل امرأته من دبرها في قبلها كان الولد أحول، فنزلت نساؤكم حرث لكم فأتوا حرثكم أنى شئتم The Jews used to say that if a man approached his wife from behind in her vagina, the child would be cross-eyed, so it was revealed: "Your wives are a place of sowing for you, so approach your place of sowing in whatever manner you wish." It is agreed upon by al-Bukhari and Muslim, and the wording is that of Muslim ":
The Shaykh : In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful:
Praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds, and may peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, and upon his family and his Companions, and upon those who follow them with excellence until the Day of Judgment:
It appears that we have taken the benefits of the previous hadith?
The student: The hadith of Abu Sa'id?
Another student: We took four.
The Shaykh : The hadith of Jabir.
The student: We took four.
Another student: We started with the hadith of Abu Sa'id!
The Shaykh : Fine, read the benefits?
The student: From the benefits of the hadith of Abu Sa'id, we completed the condition, we said: that it is the condition if it is between two things.
The Shaykh : Yes, yes, but just the benefits, it appears that I put all the benefits.
The student: The hadith of Jabir.
The Shaykh : Where are the benefits? Where are they? There are no benefits?
The student: We mentioned the benefits.
The Shaykh : How much?
The student: Five.
The Shaykh : What are they? Read, read!
The student: First: This is brief: From his guidance is that he participated in the expeditions (peace and blessings be upon him), and he personally participated in twenty-two expeditions.
Second: From the guidance of the Companions is that a woman adorns herself for her husband with a hair comb and perfume. Third!
The Shaykh : Perfume?
The student: No, no, this is a mistake.
The Shaykh : This is the problem.
The student: Cleaning!
The Shaykh : Huh, perfume?
The student: Cleaning.
The Shaykh : She cleans herself.
The student: From the guidance of the Companions is that a woman beautifies herself for her husband by removing hair and cleaning, based on his saying:Sunan Abi Dawud 2778Sahih (Al-Albani).
The Shaykh : Yes.
The student: The good care of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) for his Ummah, to the extent that he taught them how to approach their wives.
Fourth: The permissibility of a person being unkempt, because the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) said that, establishing it for him, otherwise it would have been prohibited.
The Shaykh : He prohibited it.
The student: Otherwise it would have been prohibited, but although it is permissible, it is better for a person not to be so, and not to be unkempt if a person sees him and is repelled by it, because some people, for example, grow their beard, but by growing the beard they make it unkempt and dirty.
The Shaykh : Not this one!
The student: Considering the state of the family, that a person does not come to them unexpectedly, and they are in a state that is disgusting to them.
Another student: The fifth!
The student: Sixth: A person should, if he has been absent for a long time, not visit his family at night unless he has sent news to them beforehand.
The Shaykh : Fine, the common practice is fine.
The student: Praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds, and may peace and blessings be upon the noblest of the prophets and messengers.
The author (may Allah have mercy on him) transmitted: "From Abu Sa'id al-Khudri (may Allah be pleased with him), who said: The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
The most wicked among the people in the eye of Allah on the Day of judgment is the men who goes to his wife and she comes to him, and then he divulges her secret.
إن شرَّ النساء عند الله منزلة يوم القيامة الرجل يفضي إلى امرأته وتُفضي إليه ثم ينشر سرهاAnd from Hakim ibn Mu'awiyah from his father (may Allah be pleased with him), who said:
I asked, "O Messenger of Allah, what are the rights of a wife of one of us on her husband?" He replied, "You should give her food when you eat, clothe her when you clothe yourself, not strike her on the face, and do not revile her or desert her except within the house."
قلت: يا رسول الله ما حق الزوج أحدنا عليه قال : تطعمها إذا أكلت، وتكسوها إذا اكتسيت ولا تضرب الوجه ولا تقبح، ولا تهجر إلا في البيتThe Shaykh : In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful:
Praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds, and may peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, and upon his family and his Companions, and upon those who follow them with excellence until the Day of Judgment:
It appears that we have taken the benefits of the previous hadith?
The student: The hadith of Abu Sa'id?
Another student: We took four.
The Shaykh : The hadith of Jabir.
The student: We took four.
Another student: We started with the hadith of Abu Sa'id!
The Shaykh : Fine, read the benefits?
The student: From the benefits of the hadith of Abu Sa'id, we completed the condition, we said: that it is the condition if it is between two things.
The Shaykh : Yes, yes, but just the benefits, it appears that I put all the benefits.
The student: The hadith of Jabir.
The Shaykh : Where are the benefits? Where are they? There are no benefits?
The student: We mentioned the benefits.
The Shaykh : How much?
The student: Five.
The Shaykh : What are they? Read, read!
The student: First: This is brief: From his guidance is that he participated in the expeditions (peace and blessings be upon him), and he personally participated in twenty-two expeditions.
Second: From the guidance of the Companions is that a woman adorns herself for her husband with a hair comb and perfume. Third!
The Shaykh : Perfume?
The student: No, no, this is a mistake.
The Shaykh : This is the problem.
The student: Cleaning!
The Shaykh : Huh, perfume?
The student: Cleaning.
The Shaykh : She cleans herself.
The student: From the guidance of the Companions is that a woman beautifies herself for her husband by removing hair and cleaning, based on his saying:
so that the disheveled woman combs herself and the woman whose husband has been away cleans herself
لكي تمتشط الشعثة وتستحد المغيبةThe Shaykh : Yes.
The student: The good care of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) for his Ummah, to the extent that he taught them how to approach their wives.
Fourth: The permissibility of a person being unkempt, because the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) said that, establishing it for him, otherwise it would have been prohibited.
The Shaykh : He prohibited it.
The student: Otherwise it would have been prohibited, but although it is permissible, it is better for a person not to be so, and not to be unkempt if a person sees him and is repelled by it, because some people, for example, grow their beard, but by growing the beard they make it unkempt and dirty.
The Shaykh : Not this one!
The student: Considering the state of the family, that a person does not come to them unexpectedly, and they are in a state that is disgusting to them.
Another student: The fifth!
The student: Sixth: A person should, if he has been absent for a long time, not visit his family at night unless he has sent news to them beforehand.
The Shaykh : Fine, the common practice is fine.