Continuation of the explanation of the author's statement: "Gentle without weakness"

The Shaykh : And if he is naturally inclined toward weakness, he becomes weak; this is not an acquired trait but an innate one. How can you demand of him an innate quality that he is unable to cultivate? The answer is: all innate traits or innate characteristics can be changed through acquisition. Can they be changed through acquisition? Many people, for example, are harsh and severe, but then they associate with a gentle man, and they become gentle through him and adopt his character. Or not? And many people are weak and lack personality, but they train themselves to strengthen their personality until they become strong. So the jurists (may Allah have mercy on them) did not ask of the person something impossible. They asked for something: if he is naturally inclined toward it, that is what is required; if he is not naturally inclined toward it, he tries to acquire it, he tries to gain it. And on this basis, the saying of the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) is understood: when he said, "Advise me," he said: "Advise me," he said: Did the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) forbid something innate that is inherent in human nature? The answer is no, because forbidding what cannot be implemented is an impossible demand and a burden that one cannot bear. But means: do not habituate yourself to anger. This is also the judge whom we ordered or asked to be strong without harshness, gentle without weakness. If he says, "By Allah, this is my nature; I am an angry, severe, and harsh man," yes, and what do you say to him? We say: habituate yourself, habituate yourself. And the weak one, "O man, be strong, have authority with the litigant." He says, "This is what Allah gave me." What do we say to him? We say: habituate yourself, habituate yourself to strength, so that your session is respected and not manipulated.