The Ruling on Backbiting the One Who Backbites

Some people may backbite me, so I backbite them. I know that what they are saying about me is not true; in fact, it is fabricated. I only deflect the lies and fabrications from myself and do not go beyond that. However, my heart is displeased, and I often cry over what I have done. How do you guide me?

Answer: If someone backbites you, do not backbite them, for Allah has forbidden backbiting. However, if you hear that, clarify to the people. Clarify to the one who is conveying it that this is a mistake and that what they said about you is wrong. If what is being reported about you is wrong, clarify that it is wrong. As for backbiting people, do not do it, even if they wrong you... Be better than them. Do not repay a bad deed with a bad deed, but repay a bad deed with a good one. Pray for their guidance. There is no harm in you admonishing the one who backbites you until they stop backbiting. Clarify to them that you do not approve of it. There is no harm in this. If a person tells you that they said such and such about you, for example, that you are lazy in prayer or that you do such and such of the disliked things, and they are lying, you say to them: This is a lie and is not true. Defend yourself against the evil. If you are doing what was said about you, repent to Allah, seek Allah's forgiveness, and consider this backbiting a benefit for you and an aid to you in doing good. Pray to Allah for the one who backbites you that Allah will guide them and return them to their right mind, so that they are saved from backbiting and so that they do not make it a habit. But do not you backbite them, whether the one who backbites is a man or a woman. Yes.
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