Ruling on a man saying to his wife: You are forbidden to me
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Question:
This female questioner actually sent a long message and wrote in her own style, saying: O Shaykh! I inform you that I married a young man two years ago. He was the only child of his parents and had received enough pampering to ruin his life. However, after I married him, his character began to improve, and he started to look into learning matters of his religion, as he had been ignorant of much of it. May Allah guide to the straight path. A year ago, he divorced me in a moment of anger, and it was the first time. A few weeks ago, our conversation became heated, and he said to me: "You are forbidden to me." As I understood from him later, he meant that he would refrain from having marital relations with me as a husband, but I would remain under his guardianship. I remained silent about that, and I suspect in the depths of my heart that it was the second divorce. A few days ago, my menstrual period arrived, and I was tired and irritable, which was a cause for our conversation to extend again. He said to me: "You are divorced." This was a shock to me, because I considered it the third divorce. However, his justification was that he only wanted to punish me and did not intend the true meaning of divorce. I told him that there is no debate about the fact that joking and seriousness in these matters are distinct, and I refrained from having relations with him. What is your opinion, O Shaykh? May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
This is a matter that requires your presence, and that of your husband and your guardian, before some of the Shaykhs to prove what happened. After this, I will look into the matter, if Allah wills, at the court in your country, or with some of the well-known Shaykhs who will write down your words, the husband's words, and the guardian's words if he has anything regarding what happened between you, so that we may look into the matter, if Allah wills. Because this is an important matter that requires care and investigation. After this, we will look into the matter, if Allah wills. Yes.
This female questioner actually sent a long message and wrote in her own style, saying: O Shaykh! I inform you that I married a young man two years ago. He was the only child of his parents and had received enough pampering to ruin his life. However, after I married him, his character began to improve, and he started to look into learning matters of his religion, as he had been ignorant of much of it. May Allah guide to the straight path. A year ago, he divorced me in a moment of anger, and it was the first time. A few weeks ago, our conversation became heated, and he said to me: "You are forbidden to me." As I understood from him later, he meant that he would refrain from having marital relations with me as a husband, but I would remain under his guardianship. I remained silent about that, and I suspect in the depths of my heart that it was the second divorce. A few days ago, my menstrual period arrived, and I was tired and irritable, which was a cause for our conversation to extend again. He said to me: "You are divorced." This was a shock to me, because I considered it the third divorce. However, his justification was that he only wanted to punish me and did not intend the true meaning of divorce. I told him that there is no debate about the fact that joking and seriousness in these matters are distinct, and I refrained from having relations with him. What is your opinion, O Shaykh? May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
This is a matter that requires your presence, and that of your husband and your guardian, before some of the Shaykhs to prove what happened. After this, I will look into the matter, if Allah wills, at the court in your country, or with some of the well-known Shaykhs who will write down your words, the husband's words, and the guardian's words if he has anything regarding what happened between you, so that we may look into the matter, if Allah wills. Because this is an important matter that requires care and investigation. After this, we will look into the matter, if Allah wills. Yes.
Source
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