The Ruling on Henna for Men and Mixing in Weddings
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Question:
Another question: What is your opinion regarding this practice, where some people, when their son gets married, perform what they call the henna ceremony? It takes place on the night before the wedding, and some men and women come to the groom's house. They seat the groom in the center, and they take money and give it to him. After this, the groom's mother applies henna to his hands and face. May Allah reward you, and may Allah reward you well?
Answer:
Henna is a characteristic of women; it is part of women's adornment. Therefore, it is not permissible to use it with the groom, nor with any other man. Henna is part of women's adornment and something women do to beautify themselves for their husbands. Thus, it is not permissible for a man to be treated with it, nor for a man to use it. Rather, he should stay away from it... indeed, he must stay away from imitating women. It is authentically reported from the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) that he said: And it was reported from him (peace and blessings be upon him) that he Sahih al-Bukhari 5885 This encompasses all types of imitation.
Therefore, it is obligatory to be cautious of imitating women in the groom's use of henna, or anything else that is a characteristic of women.
As for their gathering with the groom, men and women, giving him money, this requires detail: If they are mixed together, and they are not mahrams to one another—men and non-mahram women—this is not permissible. The mixing of men and women is not allowed except in a manner that involves modesty, distance from the causes of fitnah, covering, and veiling, as people gather in their homes. A woman may gather with her husband's relatives, and with the husbands of her sisters, with covering and modesty, to discuss certain matters, and there is no harm in that.
However, mixing that involves a lack of veiling and a lack of distance from the causes of fitnah is not permissible. Likewise, it is not permissible for a non-mahram woman to be in seclusion with the groom; that is also not permissible.
As for giving him money... helping him with the marriage, in the sense of assistance; there is no harm in that. Whether they gave him money or something other than money, it is in the spirit of cooperation in good. Yes.
The presenter: May Allah reward you with good.
Another question: What is your opinion regarding this practice, where some people, when their son gets married, perform what they call the henna ceremony? It takes place on the night before the wedding, and some men and women come to the groom's house. They seat the groom in the center, and they take money and give it to him. After this, the groom's mother applies henna to his hands and face. May Allah reward you, and may Allah reward you well?
Answer:
Henna is a characteristic of women; it is part of women's adornment. Therefore, it is not permissible to use it with the groom, nor with any other man. Henna is part of women's adornment and something women do to beautify themselves for their husbands. Thus, it is not permissible for a man to be treated with it, nor for a man to use it. Rather, he should stay away from it... indeed, he must stay away from imitating women. It is authentically reported from the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) that he said:
May Allah curse the man who wears the clothing of a woman, and may Allah curse the woman who wears the clothing of a man
لعن الله الرجل يلبس لبسة المرأة، ولعن الله المرأة تلبس لبسة الرجلcursed those men who are in the similitude (assume the manners) of women and those women who are in the similitude (assume the manners) of men
لعن المتشبهين من الرجال بالنساء، والمتشبهات من النساء بالرجالTherefore, it is obligatory to be cautious of imitating women in the groom's use of henna, or anything else that is a characteristic of women.
As for their gathering with the groom, men and women, giving him money, this requires detail: If they are mixed together, and they are not mahrams to one another—men and non-mahram women—this is not permissible. The mixing of men and women is not allowed except in a manner that involves modesty, distance from the causes of fitnah, covering, and veiling, as people gather in their homes. A woman may gather with her husband's relatives, and with the husbands of her sisters, with covering and modesty, to discuss certain matters, and there is no harm in that.
However, mixing that involves a lack of veiling and a lack of distance from the causes of fitnah is not permissible. Likewise, it is not permissible for a non-mahram woman to be in seclusion with the groom; that is also not permissible.
As for giving him money... helping him with the marriage, in the sense of assistance; there is no harm in that. Whether they gave him money or something other than money, it is in the spirit of cooperation in good. Yes.
The presenter: May Allah reward you with good.
Source
binbaz.org.sa
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