Ruling on visiting those who mix with men and sit with them
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Question:
The questioner says: I do not like visiting some relatives because their daughters frequently mix with men, talk to them a lot, and sit with them. I do not like these behaviors, and they say that I am overthinking it. Am I sinful given the situation I described, or am I overthinking it, or am I correct? Please guide me and those like me. May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
It is obligatory for every woman to fear Allah and to guard against what Allah has forbidden her regarding mixing with men in a way that causes fitnah (trial, discord or temptation), such as uncovering, coquetry, softening the voice, or other causes of fitnah.
As for mixing that does no harm, such as entering the market to buy a need, or praying with the people behind the congregation, this is called mixing, and there is no blame in it provided there is covering and distance from fitnah. However, mixing such that she sits with a man, or uncovers some of her beauty and charms so that men see them, or flirts with men, or softens her voice to a man; all of this is among the forbidden things.
The presenter: Or softens her voice?
The Shaykh: In speech; because Allah said: [Al-Ahzab: 32], meaning: do not be coquettish, do not adorn it with a broken voice. So the point is that she should stay away from everything that causes fitnah with men, whether the men are cousins, sisters' husbands, husband's brothers, servants, or others. One must be cautious, and you are rewarded for being cautious of these things and striving for safety. You are rewarded, if Allah wills, for that. We ask Allah for guidance and success for everyone. Yes.
The questioner says: I do not like visiting some relatives because their daughters frequently mix with men, talk to them a lot, and sit with them. I do not like these behaviors, and they say that I am overthinking it. Am I sinful given the situation I described, or am I overthinking it, or am I correct? Please guide me and those like me. May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
It is obligatory for every woman to fear Allah and to guard against what Allah has forbidden her regarding mixing with men in a way that causes fitnah (trial, discord or temptation), such as uncovering, coquetry, softening the voice, or other causes of fitnah.
As for mixing that does no harm, such as entering the market to buy a need, or praying with the people behind the congregation, this is called mixing, and there is no blame in it provided there is covering and distance from fitnah. However, mixing such that she sits with a man, or uncovers some of her beauty and charms so that men see them, or flirts with men, or softens her voice to a man; all of this is among the forbidden things.
The presenter: Or softens her voice?
The Shaykh: In speech; because Allah said:
then do not be soft in speech [to men], lest he in whose heart is disease should covet
فَلا تَخْضَعْنَ بِالْقَوْلِ فَيَطْمَعَ الَّذِي فِي قَلْبِهِ مَرَضٌ
Source
binbaz.org.sa
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