Ruling on abandoning the visitation of relatives due to evil deeds
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Question:
She says: Talebearing, backbiting, and gossip have spread among all people, and in this state, I remained in the house and did not go out with the family to visit them; rather, I sat with my brothers in the house. Will I become one who severs family ties? I hope you will advise those who carry words from one person...
The Shaykh: Repeat... Repeat...
The presenter: She says: Talebearing, backbiting, and gossip have spread among people, so I remained in the house and did not go out with the family to visit anyone; rather, I sat with my brothers in the house. Will I become one who severs family ties? I hope you will advise those who carry words from one person to another, causing problems between them due to the carrying of words. May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
Your going out with your mother and your good sisters to the neighbors or to relatives is not a problem. If you see something of what is wrong, you should forbid it with kind words and a good manner, as the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: And Allah says in His Noble Book: [At-Tawbah: 71].
And beware of isolation and eccentricity, except in cases of dire necessity. If you see that those you go out with have something wrong that they do not remove and do not accept from you, then do not go out with them. However, bad suspicion and making matters difficult without seeing something wrong is not befitting for you. Rather, go out with your mother and your sisters to the neighbors, or to visit the sick, or to maintain family ties, as long as going out does not lead to something wrong, with covering, hijab, and care. And as long as those being visited do not have something wrong, or they have something wrong but it disappears when you are present and they accept your advice, then you are in a great state of goodness. As for going out to a place where there is something wrong that does not disappear, even with your presence, do not go out to it, and do not be with them in it. Look after yourself and your religion. We ask Allah for success for everyone.
As for talebearing, it is forbidden. The scholars have not ceased advising people against it and warning people about it. Carrying bad words from one person to another, or from one group to another, or from one tribe to another, is something wrong. This is called talebearing, and it is not permissible. It is obligatory to be cautious of it. Yes.
The presenter: May Allah reward you with good.
She says: Talebearing, backbiting, and gossip have spread among all people, and in this state, I remained in the house and did not go out with the family to visit them; rather, I sat with my brothers in the house. Will I become one who severs family ties? I hope you will advise those who carry words from one person...
The Shaykh: Repeat... Repeat...
The presenter: She says: Talebearing, backbiting, and gossip have spread among people, so I remained in the house and did not go out with the family to visit anyone; rather, I sat with my brothers in the house. Will I become one who severs family ties? I hope you will advise those who carry words from one person to another, causing problems between them due to the carrying of words. May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
Your going out with your mother and your good sisters to the neighbors or to relatives is not a problem. If you see something of what is wrong, you should forbid it with kind words and a good manner, as the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
The religion is sincere advice
الدين النصيحةThe believing men and believing women are allies of one another. They enjoin what is right and forbid what is wrong
وَالْمُؤْمِنُونَ وَالْمُؤْمِنَاتُ بَعْضُهُمْ أَوْلِيَاءُ بَعْضٍ يَأْمُرُونَ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ وَيَنْهَوْنَ عَنِ الْمُنكَرِAnd beware of isolation and eccentricity, except in cases of dire necessity. If you see that those you go out with have something wrong that they do not remove and do not accept from you, then do not go out with them. However, bad suspicion and making matters difficult without seeing something wrong is not befitting for you. Rather, go out with your mother and your sisters to the neighbors, or to visit the sick, or to maintain family ties, as long as going out does not lead to something wrong, with covering, hijab, and care. And as long as those being visited do not have something wrong, or they have something wrong but it disappears when you are present and they accept your advice, then you are in a great state of goodness. As for going out to a place where there is something wrong that does not disappear, even with your presence, do not go out to it, and do not be with them in it. Look after yourself and your religion. We ask Allah for success for everyone.
As for talebearing, it is forbidden. The scholars have not ceased advising people against it and warning people about it. Carrying bad words from one person to another, or from one group to another, or from one tribe to another, is something wrong. This is called talebearing, and it is not permissible. It is obligatory to be cautious of it. Yes.
The presenter: May Allah reward you with good.
Source
binbaz.org.sa
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