What is the advice for one who is lax in matters of divorce?
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Question:
Is there a word you see as guidance on the occasion of discussing divorce, given the multitude of questions about divorce and, with great regret, the laxity in it, and the frequent use of the words of prohibition?
Answer:
Yes, yes, we advise our brothers to fear Allah and to beware of the causes of divorce: anger, disputes, and quarrels. If he becomes angry, let him seek refuge in Allah from Satan, and let him not hasten in divorce; let him not hasten. Even if she angered him, let him be more patient than she, stronger than she, more complete in faith, and more complete in mindfulness of Allah. Let him be patient and endure, and let him not hasten in divorce. If he resolves on divorce and sees the benefit in it, he should pronounce one divorce only, in a state of purity in which he did not have intercourse with her, or in a state of her pregnancy. This is the state for divorce: two states, either in a state of pregnancy, or in a state of purity in which he did not have intercourse with her.
He should not divorce in other than these two states. He should not divorce during menstruation, nor during post-natal bleeding, nor in a state of purity in which he had intercourse with her. He should not divorce in these three states. But he should divorce in two states: one is that she is pregnant, and there is no harm in his divorcing her; for the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said to Ibn 'Umar:Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1176Sahih (Darussalam), or in a state of purity in which he did not have intercourse with her, after her purity from menstruation or post-natal bleeding. If he resolves on divorce, he should divorce her in that state before he touches her—before he has intercourse with her—pronouncing one divorce only. Allah the Exalted said: [Al-Talaq:1]. The scholars said in its interpretation: "Their divorce for the waiting period is that they are divorced while pure, without intercourse." This is the divorce for the waiting period: pure, without intercourse, or in a state of pregnancy. This is their divorce for the waiting period.
He should not divorce with three pronouncements. It is not permissible to divorce with three, whether grouped together or separated. But he should divorce her with one only if he resolves, one pronouncement, so that she may have the right of return, so that he does not close the door.
Is there a word you see as guidance on the occasion of discussing divorce, given the multitude of questions about divorce and, with great regret, the laxity in it, and the frequent use of the words of prohibition?
Answer:
Yes, yes, we advise our brothers to fear Allah and to beware of the causes of divorce: anger, disputes, and quarrels. If he becomes angry, let him seek refuge in Allah from Satan, and let him not hasten in divorce; let him not hasten. Even if she angered him, let him be more patient than she, stronger than she, more complete in faith, and more complete in mindfulness of Allah. Let him be patient and endure, and let him not hasten in divorce. If he resolves on divorce and sees the benefit in it, he should pronounce one divorce only, in a state of purity in which he did not have intercourse with her, or in a state of her pregnancy. This is the state for divorce: two states, either in a state of pregnancy, or in a state of purity in which he did not have intercourse with her.
He should not divorce in other than these two states. He should not divorce during menstruation, nor during post-natal bleeding, nor in a state of purity in which he had intercourse with her. He should not divorce in these three states. But he should divorce in two states: one is that she is pregnant, and there is no harm in his divorcing her; for the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said to Ibn 'Umar:
divorce her while she is pure or pregnant
طلِّقها طاهرًا أو حاملًاO Prophet, when you [Muslims] divorce women, divorce them for [the commencement of] their waiting period
يَا أَيُّهَا النَّبِيُّ إِذَا طَلَّقْتُمُ النِّسَاءَ فَطَلِّقُوهُنَّ لِعِدَّتِهِنَّHe should not divorce with three pronouncements. It is not permissible to divorce with three, whether grouped together or separated. But he should divorce her with one only if he resolves, one pronouncement, so that she may have the right of return, so that he does not close the door.
Source
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