Ruling on a father taking his daughter's salary and giving it to her brothers

Question:
The first message in this episode is one that reached the program from Hail, sent by one of the female listeners. The presenter was deeply affected by this message, as she says in it: Your Eminence, the Shaykh:
I am a girl with five brothers, two of whom are married. I work as a teacher, and some of my brothers work while others are studying. My father takes all of my salary and gives it to my brothers, who spend it in various ways: some buy books with it, some buy personal items, some got married with it, some bought a car, and some use it to complete the construction of their house. I have been working for many years, and all my money has been spent on them, and I did not object to this. Out of respect for my father, dutifulness to him, and kindness, I want nothing but the pleasure of my parents.
My question is: Is it permissible for my father to take this money of mine, even though I work very hard to earn it, to give it to my brothers? Please guide us. May Allah reward you with good.

Answer:
In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. Praise be to Allah, and may Allah send blessings and peace upon the Messenger of Allah, and upon his family and his Companions, and upon those who follow his guidance. As for what follows:
The Noble Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said in an authentic hadith: So your father has the right to take from your salary what he needs for his maintenance of his household and his minor children, based on the saying of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him): , and his saying (peace and blessings be upon him) to a man who said to him: .
So there is no blame on him for taking from your wealth and the wealth of your other children what he needs, on the condition that it does not cause harm to you or to the others from whose wealth he takes. He takes from your wealth an amount that does not harm you, and from the wealth of your other children an amount that does not harm them, for his need in maintaining himself, his wife, and his minor children, based on the two aforementioned hadiths.
As for taking your salary for your other children, this is not permissible except with your consent. If you allow it from a willing heart and give him permission to dispose of it, there is no blame; because the wealth is yours, so if you allow it, there is no blame, otherwise he has no right to do so. However, if he takes the money from you to spend on himself and his minor children whose maintenance is obligatory upon him, there is no blame on him and it is not impermissible. If you are in need of something, your need takes precedence. Your need, in terms of your clothing and your other necessities, takes precedence. Whatever remains after your need, he has the right to dispose of it for his own needs.
As for giving it to your other children to build houses or for other such purposes, that is not allowed.
As for the maintenance that Allah has made obligatory for him to spend on them, there is nothing wrong with him disposing of what he takes from you and others to spend on the other minor children who are in need of their father and their father's maintenance. If you allow him to take the entire salary and dispose of it as he wishes, there is no blame in that, and praise be to Allah. Yes.

The presenter: May Allah reward you with good. Your Eminence, the Shaykh! Some fathers believe that the hadith of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him): They believe that this hadith is absolute and has no conditions. Do you advise fathers about something on this occasion?

The Shaykh: As mentioned earlier, the scholars have qualified it with the condition of no harm, based on the saying of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him): And the legal principle is: there is no harm to be inflicted on anyone. So this child should not be harmed for the sake of the second child, and this daughter should not be harmed for the sake of the second daughter. But he takes from their wealth what he needs without harming them. So if the daughter has small children for whom no one is responsible, he has no right to take from her wealth what harms her and her children; they are more deserving. Likewise, if she needs clothes, books that benefit her in her studies, and things like that, he must leave for her what satisfies her need and not take everything from her. The principle is: no harm and no reciprocating harm. So he must leave for her what covers her need and take the surplus for his own need.
Likewise, if it is a son, he leaves for him, his children, and his wife what suffices them, and takes from the excess surplus, based on the saying of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him): This is a legal principle: no one should harm another. It is necessary that there be no harm. Yes.

The presenter: May Allah reward you with good. If this questioner wants to get married, or build a mosque, or give charity, how should she deal with her father?

The Shaykh: Her father's right takes precedence over the mosque and over anything other than the mosque.

The presenter: Her father's right?

The Shaykh: Her father's right takes precedence.

The presenter: But what if the father is in a state of sufficiency, for example?

The Shaykh: He has the right to take what exceeds her need. So his dutifulness takes precedence over building the mosque; his dutifulness takes precedence. However, her own need in terms of her clothing, food, and her children takes precedence. Her need and the need of her children take precedence over the father. But what remains after her need and the need of her children, for example, he has the right to take what he spends on his own needs. Yes.

The presenter: May Allah reward you with good.

The Shaykh: Combining the hadiths.

The presenter: May Allah reward you with good.