Prohibition of shaking hands with women for a man who raised them but is not a mahram to them
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Question:
The Shaykh: In an important question, a man passed away and left behind his daughters. Then, he did not find a mahram for these daughters except a righteous man from his community. So, he made a will that the righteous man should take the daughters and keep them with him. He took the daughters, raised them, and treated them well, and he married them off—may Allah reward him with good. But these daughters greet him at that time; I mean, is it permissible for him to receive their greetings?
Answer:
In any case, he is rewarded if he made a will for a man to take charge of his daughters; because no one else was left to take charge of them, and he made a will for a righteous man to take charge of them; so there is no harm. He must take charge of them and treat them well, and he must not be alone with any one of them. Rather, they should be with his women and his family, and he should attend to their needs without being alone with any one of them.
And regarding marriage, if he was willed to marry them off, then he is their wali (guardian) for them as well, and he marries them off. But he is not a mahram to them. He does not receive their greeting by shaking hands or by kissing. They greet him with words, they pray for his well-being, and they thank him for his good work. But he is not a mahram to them, so he is not like their father or their brother. No, they do not shake his hand, and they do not uncover themselves before him. Rather, they observe hijab from you like other non-mahram men. They do not shake his hand, but they greet him with words; because shaking hands is not permissible. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:Sunan Ibn Majah 2874Sahih (Darussalam) And Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) said that when he (peace and blessings be upon him) took the pledge of allegiance from the women, she said: Sahih al-Bukhari 4891 (peace and blessings be upon him).
So, shaking hands is not for non-mahram men. Shaking hands is for women among their mahram, such as their brothers, their maternal uncles, and their paternal uncles. As for shaking hands with the husband's brother, or the sister's husband, or the paternal cousins, whether upon arrival from travel or otherwise, no, it is not permissible for women to shake hands. Rather, it is one of the causes of fitnah (trial, discord or temptation) and one of the causes of committing forbidden acts.
The Shaykh: In an important question, a man passed away and left behind his daughters. Then, he did not find a mahram for these daughters except a righteous man from his community. So, he made a will that the righteous man should take the daughters and keep them with him. He took the daughters, raised them, and treated them well, and he married them off—may Allah reward him with good. But these daughters greet him at that time; I mean, is it permissible for him to receive their greetings?
Answer:
In any case, he is rewarded if he made a will for a man to take charge of his daughters; because no one else was left to take charge of them, and he made a will for a righteous man to take charge of them; so there is no harm. He must take charge of them and treat them well, and he must not be alone with any one of them. Rather, they should be with his women and his family, and he should attend to their needs without being alone with any one of them.
And regarding marriage, if he was willed to marry them off, then he is their wali (guardian) for them as well, and he marries them off. But he is not a mahram to them. He does not receive their greeting by shaking hands or by kissing. They greet him with words, they pray for his well-being, and they thank him for his good work. But he is not a mahram to them, so he is not like their father or their brother. No, they do not shake his hand, and they do not uncover themselves before him. Rather, they observe hijab from you like other non-mahram men. They do not shake his hand, but they greet him with words; because shaking hands is not permissible. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
But I do not shake hands with women.
إني لا أصافح النساءhis hand never touched, any lady during that pledge of allegiance. He did not receive their pledge except by saying,
ما مست يده يد امرأة قط، ما كان يبايعهن إلا بالكلامSo, shaking hands is not for non-mahram men. Shaking hands is for women among their mahram, such as their brothers, their maternal uncles, and their paternal uncles. As for shaking hands with the husband's brother, or the sister's husband, or the paternal cousins, whether upon arrival from travel or otherwise, no, it is not permissible for women to shake hands. Rather, it is one of the causes of fitnah (trial, discord or temptation) and one of the causes of committing forbidden acts.
Source
binbaz.org.sa
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