Do we use the feminine form when making du'a for a deceased woman, or do we follow the wording of the hadith?
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The questioner : All right, Shaykh, regarding the hadith which is the du'a for the funeral prayer: Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1025Sahih (Darussalam) until the person reaches Sahih Muslim 963d, if this funeral is for a woman, is it the same hadith or not?
The Shaykh : It is the same hadith. This is due to the ignorance of people. The imam you know says: "We are going to pray over the funeral, and it is a woman," or he says: "It is a man," because he thinks that... regarding the deceased. Then it does not concern you whether he is male or female. Allah (Mighty and Majestic) is All-Knowing of the realities of events and matters. He understands what you mean. So, this deceased person, whether male or female, the matter is finished.
Al-Halabi : There is something even more amazing here, my professor. When the imam comes to pray, they ask him, "Is the funeral for a woman or a man?" and the mosque is in an uproar while they are asking, "Male or female?"
The Shaykh : Poor things.
Al-Halabi: Allahu Akbar.
The Shaykh : Yes, indeed, people are in need of knowledge.
The questioner : This happens even in the Prophet's Mosque sometimes.
The Shaykh : How? It happens there, yes.
The questioner : The prayer over the deceased while present.
Another questioner : ... some of them say the prayer over the deceased while present.
The Shaykh : Over this woman, over this man. We have heard this repeatedly.
The questioner : In Makkah, it is a generalization without specification.
Another questioner : In Makkah, some of them, the same mu'adhdhins differ.
The Shaykh: Yes.
The questioner : Some of them are aware, and some are ignorant.
The Shaykh: Correct.
O Allah! Forgive him, have mercy upon him
اللهم اغفر له وارحمهRequite him with an abode more excellent than his abode, with a family better than his family, and with a mate better than his mate
اللهم أبدِلْه دارًا خيرًا من داره ، وأهلًا خيرًا من أهله ، وزوجًا خيرًا من زوجهThe Shaykh : It is the same hadith. This is due to the ignorance of people. The imam you know says: "We are going to pray over the funeral, and it is a woman," or he says: "It is a man," because he thinks that... regarding the deceased. Then it does not concern you whether he is male or female. Allah (Mighty and Majestic) is All-Knowing of the realities of events and matters. He understands what you mean. So, this deceased person, whether male or female, the matter is finished.
Al-Halabi : There is something even more amazing here, my professor. When the imam comes to pray, they ask him, "Is the funeral for a woman or a man?" and the mosque is in an uproar while they are asking, "Male or female?"
The Shaykh : Poor things.
Al-Halabi: Allahu Akbar.
The Shaykh : Yes, indeed, people are in need of knowledge.
The questioner : This happens even in the Prophet's Mosque sometimes.
The Shaykh : How? It happens there, yes.
The questioner : The prayer over the deceased while present.
Another questioner : ... some of them say the prayer over the deceased while present.
The Shaykh : Over this woman, over this man. We have heard this repeatedly.
The questioner : In Makkah, it is a generalization without specification.
Another questioner : In Makkah, some of them, the same mu'adhdhins differ.
The Shaykh: Yes.
The questioner : Some of them are aware, and some are ignorant.
The Shaykh: Correct.
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