Continuation of the explanation of the hadith of Malik ibn al-Huwayrith (may Allah be pleased with him), who said: (… return to your families, teach them, and enjoin upon them …).

The Shaykh : So he said to them, announcing their departure: This passage is the point of interest in this hadith; for the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him), despite knowing that the presence of these twenty men with him was a matter of necessity for them, because they were learning Islamic jurisprudence from the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him), despite that, when it became clear to him that these men were eager to return to their families, the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) permitted them to depart and return to their families. However, he reminded them that two things are obligatory for them regarding their families. The first: that they enjoin upon them, meaning what Allah and His Messenger have commanded, and the intent of this is that they should advise their families and not remain silent about their neglect or their laziness in performing what Allah has made obligatory upon them, and the like of that. And the second thing: that they teach them what is forbidden and what is lawful, and not leave their families in ignorance such that they fall into violating the Shari'ah while they are not aware. So he (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Knowledge is one thing and enjoining is another, so the father must teach his children, and then he must monitor them; are they applying what they learned of the obligatory commands? Are they, for example, performing the prayers? Are they maintaining truthfulness so they do not lie? Are they? Are they? And so on.
So it is not sufficient for the father to merely teach his child; rather, he must enjoin upon him what is right and forbid him from what is wrong. Therefore, when we hear this hadith that the Messenger (peace be upon him) commands these men to return to their families to teach them and enjoin upon them, we realize at that time the extent of the shortcoming of fathers with their children, for the majority of these fathers are concerned with teaching their children, so they enroll them in schools and may spend vast sums of money on them, especially if they reach higher education, where this study costs the fathers thousands of pounds. This indicates the fathers' concern with teaching their children, but it is later revealed that this concern with education was not for the sake of Allah (Mighty and Majestic), as evidenced by the fact that the child studies and graduates to become, for example, a doctor in medicine or astronomy or any other science, but he does not understand anything of Islam. However, he knows, for example, at least that Allah has made the prayers obligatory upon him, yet he does not maintain the prayer, and the father and mother remain silent, not enjoining upon them to maintain the prayer and Islamic manners. At that time, they have fallen short in performing these obligations to which the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) draws attention in the hadith: . And in this hadith which we are currently discussing, where he (peace be upon him) says: .
So it is not sufficient for us to be content with merely teaching our children; rather, it is necessary to enjoin upon them to be upright, as He (the Exalted) said: . Thus, care must be taken for the family so that we have fulfilled the duty of caring for them and protecting them, so that they and their families do not become fuel for the Fire on the Day of Resurrection, may Allah forbid it. For the sake of this passage, the author (may Allah have mercy on him) cited this hadith under the chapter "The man is a shepherd over his family," thereby explaining a type of care, as I mentioned earlier. The intent of care is not only the performance of the material duty of food and drink and the like, but what is more obligatory than all of this is teaching them what is important regarding their religion, and then raising them upon this knowledge. And that requires enjoining upon them what they may fall short of in religious obligations.