The questioner says: I am a girl who was breastfed by a woman for three months along with her daughter. This woman has other children and a daughter older than this daughter. Do I have the right to seek out the older and younger children?
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The questioner : She says: I am a girl who was breastfed by a woman for three months along with her daughter. This woman has other children and a daughter older than this daughter. Do I have the right to seek out the older and younger children? I am confused and have not greeted them because some relatives told me that it is not permissible for me to seek out the older one. I am sending you this message to your esteemed program, which brings good to our hearts. Please advise us. May Allah reward you a thousand times with good and may Allah bless you.
The Shaykh : Praise be to Allah. The listening brothers should understand that if a person, or a boy or girl, is breastfed by a woman in a way that establishes kinship—meaning before weaning and with five or more feedings—then the breastfed child becomes a son or daughter of the woman who breastfed him. The previous and subsequent children of the woman who breastfed him become his siblings. Likewise, the previous and subsequent children of her husband from his other wives also become siblings to this child or girl who was breastfed by his wife.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : As for what some of the common people believe, that one is not a sibling unless they shared in the breastfeeding, this is not correct.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : This is what has caused the many questions from people about those who were before or after the breastfed child. Otherwise, if people knew that when a man is breastfed by a woman, she becomes his mother and her children become his siblings, both male and female, and that his wife’s children also become his siblings, both male and female, this issue would not have arisen.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : However, the listeners should understand that when a man is breastfed by a woman, or when a boy or girl is breastfed by a woman, he or she becomes one of her children, and her children become his or her siblings. The children of her husband also become his or her siblings.
The questioner : Yes, they are his siblings, but are they not siblings to his brother?
The Shaykh : Yes, yes, they are not siblings to his brother, nor are they children of his father, because the relatives of the breastfed child, except for his descendants, have no relation to the breastfeeding.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : None of the relatives of the breastfed child are affected by the breastfeeding in any way, except for his descendants who come from this breastfed child, to whom the prohibition of breastfeeding extends.
The questioner : That is, their kinship through breastfeeding is like their kinship through blood.
The Shaykh : Yes, that is correct.
The questioner : May Allah reward you.
This message is from Munya Tami Abdullah al-Asimi. She says: Peace be upon you and Allah’s mercy and blessings. And after that.
The Shaykh : Praise be to Allah. The listening brothers should understand that if a person, or a boy or girl, is breastfed by a woman in a way that establishes kinship—meaning before weaning and with five or more feedings—then the breastfed child becomes a son or daughter of the woman who breastfed him. The previous and subsequent children of the woman who breastfed him become his siblings. Likewise, the previous and subsequent children of her husband from his other wives also become siblings to this child or girl who was breastfed by his wife.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : As for what some of the common people believe, that one is not a sibling unless they shared in the breastfeeding, this is not correct.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : This is what has caused the many questions from people about those who were before or after the breastfed child. Otherwise, if people knew that when a man is breastfed by a woman, she becomes his mother and her children become his siblings, both male and female, and that his wife’s children also become his siblings, both male and female, this issue would not have arisen.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : However, the listeners should understand that when a man is breastfed by a woman, or when a boy or girl is breastfed by a woman, he or she becomes one of her children, and her children become his or her siblings. The children of her husband also become his or her siblings.
The questioner : Yes, they are his siblings, but are they not siblings to his brother?
The Shaykh : Yes, yes, they are not siblings to his brother, nor are they children of his father, because the relatives of the breastfed child, except for his descendants, have no relation to the breastfeeding.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : None of the relatives of the breastfed child are affected by the breastfeeding in any way, except for his descendants who come from this breastfed child, to whom the prohibition of breastfeeding extends.
The questioner : That is, their kinship through breastfeeding is like their kinship through blood.
The Shaykh : Yes, that is correct.
The questioner : May Allah reward you.
This message is from Munya Tami Abdullah al-Asimi. She says: Peace be upon you and Allah’s mercy and blessings. And after that.