He also says that when he orders her to do something, she says, “If Allah wills, I will do it,” and then does not do it. What is the ruling on this from her?
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The questioner : He also says that when he orders her to do something, she says, “If Allah wills, I will do it,” and then does not do it. What is the ruling on this from her?
The Shaykh : It is obligatory for her to comply with what he orders her to do, as long as it does not cause her harm or involve disobedience to Allah and His Messenger. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:Sunan Ibn Majah 1852Da'if (Darussalam).
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : But as we mentioned previously, this is on the condition that it does not cause her harm or involve disobedience to Allah and His Messenger. If it involves disobedience to Allah and His Messenger, it is not permissible for her to agree with you, and it is not permissible for you to order her to do it either. Likewise, if it causes her harm, it is not permissible, because that is not treating one’s spouse with kindness. Yes.
The questioner : This is a message received from the listener Shatiwi 'Iyad Sulayman from Jordan.
The Shaykh : It is obligatory for her to comply with what he orders her to do, as long as it does not cause her harm or involve disobedience to Allah and His Messenger. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
If I were to command anyone to prostrate to anyone else, I would have commanded women to prostrate to their husbands
لو أمرت أحدا أن يسجد لأحدٍ لأمرت المرأة أن تسجد لزوجها من عظم حقه عليهاThe questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : But as we mentioned previously, this is on the condition that it does not cause her harm or involve disobedience to Allah and His Messenger. If it involves disobedience to Allah and His Messenger, it is not permissible for her to agree with you, and it is not permissible for you to order her to do it either. Likewise, if it causes her harm, it is not permissible, because that is not treating one’s spouse with kindness. Yes.
The questioner : This is a message received from the listener Shatiwi 'Iyad Sulayman from Jordan.