The Limits of Seeking Permission from One's Parents
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What are the limits of seeking permission from one's parents?
It is obligatory to be dutiful to both parents, the mother and the father, and undutifulness to them is among the major sins, as in the hadith of Abu Bakrah (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Shall I inform you of the greatest of the major sins?They said: Yes, O Messenger of Allah! He said: Associating partners with Allah, and undutifulness to the parents. And he was leaning, so he sat up,So he said: and saying a false statement, and bearing false witness).
But one does not seek permission from one's parents for everything. If a person wants to perform an obligatory prayer, he does not seek permission from his parents,Rather, if they said: nor does he pray with the congregation, for example,he must disobey them, by the saying of Allah the Exalted: [Luqman:15] and the saying of the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him): "There is no obedience to a created being in disobedience to the Creator". It is also not obligatory to seek their permission for voluntary prayer, unless they have work to do and they need him for it. In that case, he seeks their permission; because if they need him, attending to their needs is part of being dutiful, and being dutiful is obligatory, while voluntary prayer is a voluntary act. In that case, he seeks their permission. But if they do not need him, and there is no harm to them in the obedience he performs, there is no need to seek their permission.
It is obligatory to be dutiful to both parents, the mother and the father, and undutifulness to them is among the major sins, as in the hadith of Abu Bakrah (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Shall I inform you of the greatest of the major sins?They said: Yes, O Messenger of Allah! He said: Associating partners with Allah, and undutifulness to the parents. And he was leaning, so he sat up,So he said: and saying a false statement, and bearing false witness).
But one does not seek permission from one's parents for everything. If a person wants to perform an obligatory prayer, he does not seek permission from his parents,Rather, if they said: nor does he pray with the congregation, for example,he must disobey them, by the saying of Allah the Exalted:
