Ruling on women visiting the grave of a person who died and whose death they did not witness
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What is the ruling on women visiting graves if, for example, they are in one country and their son is in another, and then he dies and they did not see him, or they did not witness his death, and then they go to visit him in the cemetery? The mother in particular is sensitive; if this mother frequently wails and laments and reduces her worship if she does not see her son, what is the ruling on visiting for her? And what is the ruling on women visiting graves in general?
Women visiting graves in general is forbidden, indeed it is among the major sins; because the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) cursed those who visit graves. This woman who remained sad over the loss of her son because she did not witness his funeral, that happened to her from Satan. If she goes, for example, and visits her son, will she see her son? She will not see him. So what is the benefit? And if the intention is to make du'a,We said to her: you can make du'a while you are in your home, but Satan makes her restless and agitated until she goes to the grave.
Then, when she goes to the grave, it does not appear to her that she increases except in sadness and attachment to the grave, and perhaps she repeats the visit because of that.
Therefore, we offer advice to this mother and say to her: Have patience and seek reward from Allah, for to Allah belongs what He takes and to Him belongs what He leaves, and everything is with Him by a specified term. And increase your du'a for your son,And say what Umm Salama (may Allah be pleased with her) said: [O Allah, grant me patience in my affliction and replace it for me with something better]. For there is no servant who says that except that Allah will grant him patience in his affliction and replace it for him with something better.
Yes, if a woman passes by the cemetery and stops and makes du'a for them, there is nothing wrong with that. But if she leaves her house with the intention of visiting the cemetery or visiting a specific grave, it is forbidden, indeed it is among the major sins.
Women visiting graves in general is forbidden, indeed it is among the major sins; because the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) cursed those who visit graves. This woman who remained sad over the loss of her son because she did not witness his funeral, that happened to her from Satan. If she goes, for example, and visits her son, will she see her son? She will not see him. So what is the benefit? And if the intention is to make du'a,We said to her: you can make du'a while you are in your home, but Satan makes her restless and agitated until she goes to the grave.
Then, when she goes to the grave, it does not appear to her that she increases except in sadness and attachment to the grave, and perhaps she repeats the visit because of that.
Therefore, we offer advice to this mother and say to her: Have patience and seek reward from Allah, for to Allah belongs what He takes and to Him belongs what He leaves, and everything is with Him by a specified term. And increase your du'a for your son,And say what Umm Salama (may Allah be pleased with her) said: [O Allah, grant me patience in my affliction and replace it for me with something better]. For there is no servant who says that except that Allah will grant him patience in his affliction and replace it for him with something better.
Yes, if a woman passes by the cemetery and stops and makes du'a for them, there is nothing wrong with that. But if she leaves her house with the intention of visiting the cemetery or visiting a specific grave, it is forbidden, indeed it is among the major sins.