What is the ruling on the groom entering the women’s gathering at the wedding to sit next to the bride?
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The questioner : So, what is your opinion?
The Shaykh : By Allah, if it is as I know it, the groom stands in front of the women!
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Then, obviously, it is not permissible. But if you mean something else, describe it to me so that I can answer you about it!
The questioner : By Allah, my Shaykh, this is the very thing you mentioned, and it is what my heart is at peace with. But what happened is that the family is pressuring me, meaning they say: this is a matter that must be done, and so on.
The Shaykh : Yes, perhaps first you convince them, and secondly: they will be convinced by you, so you tell them:Mishkat al-Masabih 3696.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : And fear the Fire whose fuel is people and stones!
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : So you admonish them and remind them.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : And if Allah wills, they will respond to you, and if Allah wills, the joy is with you?!
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : The joy is with you?!
The questioner : Yes, I have my wedding.
The Shaykh : Yes, so beware that you do not begin it with disobedience to Allah.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh : I say: beware, then beware, so perhaps if Allah wills you will succeed in fighting this misguidance that has spread and become widespread!
The questioner : Okay, my Shaykh, what if the women are veiled, meaning most of them are veiled.
The Shaykh : No, no, it is sufficient for you to see one woman who is not lawful for you.
The questioner : Okay, my Shaykh, they argue that you will see her in the street, that woman who is not lawful for you.
The Shaykh : May Allah guide them!
The questioner : Although my heart is at peace with the ruling you gave.
The Shaykh : Yes, yes, but every question has an answer.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : If they argue that this is what you will see in this gathering, they will tell you: you will see her in the street!
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Okay, is it permissible for you to gather those in the street to see them in your house?!
The questioner : It is not permissible.
The Shaykh : Of course, it is not permissible.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Therefore, admonish them and advise them.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : And remind them that the outcome is for the righteous.
The questioner : Okay, my Shaykh, even if the father said, I felt that he was angry or affected if I did not respond to him in this matter, is it permissible for me, meaning, or is it obligatory for me not to enter this gathering?!
The Shaykh : By Allah, may Allah bless you, I think I have given you the answer.
The questioner: Correct.
The Shaykh : When I quoted to you his saying - peace and blessings be upon him - :Mishkat al-Masabih 3696.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : And in my opinion, the father, even though I do not know the extent of his commitment!
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : He is, in any case, if you direct to him the following question!
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Which is: O my father, is your obedience more obligatory for me, or the obedience of your Prophet?! I think the correct answer will be for him to say to you: No, the obedience of the Messenger takes precedence over my obedience, O my son.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Then at that time you will say to him: So allow me, O my father, to obey the Prophet even if I contradict you, because you say: the obedience of the Messenger takes precedence over your obedience.
The questioner : Yes, may Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh : May Allah preserve you.
The questioner : May Allah reward you, our Shaykh.
The Shaykh : Perhaps we will hear of your joy soon?!
The questioner : May Allah bless you.
The Shaykh : When is it?
The questioner : By Allah, the marriage contract was written recently, the wedding, meaning, is possible in a few months if Allah wills.
The Shaykh : Yes, we wish you success.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh : And a happy marriage.
The questioner : May Allah bless you.
The Shaykh : In this world and the Hereafter.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh : May Allah preserve you.
The questioner : May Allah honor you, thank you, my Shaykh.
The Shaykh : Welcome.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good!
The Shaykh: Peace be upon you.
The questioner : And upon you be peace and the mercy of Allah.
The Shaykh : It is as if this voice takes the place of the one who resigns or retires, or say what you wish about him regarding perseverance and consistency in calling and guidance and the like. So if the answer is: yes, it is fine, and if the answer is no, of course the answer will not be: no, but the answer will be: hmm, hesitant, meaning. So at that time, we do not advise resignation.
The questioner : I mean, good words, my Shaykh, this is what I weighed, meaning I weighed it before I thought about this matter, but I said: I, if Allah wills, if that imam is not that active, we will assist him by the permission of Allah - Mighty and Majestic - , so we do not abandon the call, but the commitment of the imam and the commitment to some matters, meaning this situation.
Another questioner : My Shaykh, did you advise him, meaning!
The Shaykh : I, my Shaykh, advised him, correct.
The questioner : That the Messenger - peace and blessings be upon him - : So is this established?! And if it is established, we want the understanding of this hadith?
The Shaykh : Yes, but he seeks guidance, it is not his habit to be guided, meaning for example: he asks for water from Zamzam to be brought to him.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : As for seeking guidance, by Allah, we weep: the car is that one.
The questioner : No, he does not seek guidance, yes, may Allah honor you, so do not let it be recorded on this matter!
The Shaykh : It will not be revealed to him, if the Mahdi is generous and noble, but you do not want this, you want what will not be revealed to him, he will ask for it.
The questioner : Yes, it will not be revealed to him, he will ask for it, yes, this is what I want, yes, may Allah honor you, my Shaykh.
The Shaykh : By Allah, if it is as I know it, the groom stands in front of the women!
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Then, obviously, it is not permissible. But if you mean something else, describe it to me so that I can answer you about it!
The questioner : By Allah, my Shaykh, this is the very thing you mentioned, and it is what my heart is at peace with. But what happened is that the family is pressuring me, meaning they say: this is a matter that must be done, and so on.
The Shaykh : Yes, perhaps first you convince them, and secondly: they will be convinced by you, so you tell them:
A creature is not to be obeyed when it involves disobedience to the "Creator.”
لا طاعة لمخلوق في معصية الخالقThe questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : And fear the Fire whose fuel is people and stones!
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : So you admonish them and remind them.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : And if Allah wills, they will respond to you, and if Allah wills, the joy is with you?!
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : The joy is with you?!
The questioner : Yes, I have my wedding.
The Shaykh : Yes, so beware that you do not begin it with disobedience to Allah.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh : I say: beware, then beware, so perhaps if Allah wills you will succeed in fighting this misguidance that has spread and become widespread!
The questioner : Okay, my Shaykh, what if the women are veiled, meaning most of them are veiled.
The Shaykh : No, no, it is sufficient for you to see one woman who is not lawful for you.
The questioner : Okay, my Shaykh, they argue that you will see her in the street, that woman who is not lawful for you.
The Shaykh : May Allah guide them!
The questioner : Although my heart is at peace with the ruling you gave.
The Shaykh : Yes, yes, but every question has an answer.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : If they argue that this is what you will see in this gathering, they will tell you: you will see her in the street!
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Okay, is it permissible for you to gather those in the street to see them in your house?!
The questioner : It is not permissible.
The Shaykh : Of course, it is not permissible.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Therefore, admonish them and advise them.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : And remind them that the outcome is for the righteous.
The questioner : Okay, my Shaykh, even if the father said, I felt that he was angry or affected if I did not respond to him in this matter, is it permissible for me, meaning, or is it obligatory for me not to enter this gathering?!
The Shaykh : By Allah, may Allah bless you, I think I have given you the answer.
The questioner: Correct.
The Shaykh : When I quoted to you his saying - peace and blessings be upon him - :
A creature is not to be obeyed when it involves disobedience to the "Creator.”
لا طاعة لمخلوق في معصية الخالقThe questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : And in my opinion, the father, even though I do not know the extent of his commitment!
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : He is, in any case, if you direct to him the following question!
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Which is: O my father, is your obedience more obligatory for me, or the obedience of your Prophet?! I think the correct answer will be for him to say to you: No, the obedience of the Messenger takes precedence over my obedience, O my son.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : Then at that time you will say to him: So allow me, O my father, to obey the Prophet even if I contradict you, because you say: the obedience of the Messenger takes precedence over your obedience.
The questioner : Yes, may Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh : May Allah preserve you.
The questioner : May Allah reward you, our Shaykh.
The Shaykh : Perhaps we will hear of your joy soon?!
The questioner : May Allah bless you.
The Shaykh : When is it?
The questioner : By Allah, the marriage contract was written recently, the wedding, meaning, is possible in a few months if Allah wills.
The Shaykh : Yes, we wish you success.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh : And a happy marriage.
The questioner : May Allah bless you.
The Shaykh : In this world and the Hereafter.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh : May Allah preserve you.
The questioner : May Allah honor you, thank you, my Shaykh.
The Shaykh : Welcome.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good!
The Shaykh: Peace be upon you.
The questioner : And upon you be peace and the mercy of Allah.
The Shaykh : It is as if this voice takes the place of the one who resigns or retires, or say what you wish about him regarding perseverance and consistency in calling and guidance and the like. So if the answer is: yes, it is fine, and if the answer is no, of course the answer will not be: no, but the answer will be: hmm, hesitant, meaning. So at that time, we do not advise resignation.
The questioner : I mean, good words, my Shaykh, this is what I weighed, meaning I weighed it before I thought about this matter, but I said: I, if Allah wills, if that imam is not that active, we will assist him by the permission of Allah - Mighty and Majestic - , so we do not abandon the call, but the commitment of the imam and the commitment to some matters, meaning this situation.
Another questioner : My Shaykh, did you advise him, meaning!
The Shaykh : I, my Shaykh, advised him, correct.
The questioner : That the Messenger - peace and blessings be upon him - :
He used to seek guidance
كان يستهديThe Shaykh : Yes, but he seeks guidance, it is not his habit to be guided, meaning for example: he asks for water from Zamzam to be brought to him.
The questioner: Yes.
The Shaykh : As for seeking guidance, by Allah, we weep: the car is that one.
The questioner : No, he does not seek guidance, yes, may Allah honor you, so do not let it be recorded on this matter!
The Shaykh : It will not be revealed to him, if the Mahdi is generous and noble, but you do not want this, you want what will not be revealed to him, he will ask for it.
The questioner : Yes, it will not be revealed to him, he will ask for it, yes, this is what I want, yes, may Allah honor you, my Shaykh.
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